Has anyone lost friends over borderline personality disorder?

I just realized my friend who has borderline blocked me on social media. That seems like a small thing but I really had no animosity towards her. She overdramatized a mundane event and turned it on me. But, I'm not taking it too personally because I know that's part of the illness. Just a little hurt that she has to dictate whether or not a relationship is over. I do worry about her but am apprehensive about reaching out because she gets very carried away with her emotions. I always care about friends and ex-friends, but starting a conversation might open up worse things. It's a shame...

I used to know someone who had borderline personality disorder who did the same to me. She also did that to a lot of other people. I don’t think everyone who has “borderline” pd does this. I think you are responding to it in a “mature” and sensible way. I also care about friends and even some ex friends (so long as they were not so unwell that they demonised me....

ETA hopefully your friend was just having a bad day and will stop being mad at you and will unblock you.

She’ll probably decide to stop being mad at you and unblock you.

Yes, I’ve lost friends and family, and it really bothers me. I don’t want to call them again because they acted horribly to me. They really did. This wasn’t small stuff. Plus, they made no effort. They didn’t value me at all.

Hopefully, your friend was just having a bad day.

I have had exactly that experience with “family” and some former “friends” .. They really did act horribly to me and it was not small stuff at all.
They didn’t value me at all. And that is about them.

I have a child with someone who has it. Very challenging. Lots and lots of dishonesty. Theft of huge sums of money. Affairs. Etc.

I could go on.

Hang in there.

Thanks guys, I had actually decided a while back to distance myself anyway, since her behavior was getting very toxic. I just wish her the best, I do feel better now that we have parted ways. Hopefully she will work on herself and get better. Maybe we will reconnect in the future, who knows!

I do not have Borderline Personality Disorder and really only know of, personally, one person that does have an official BPD diagnosis (an old boyfriend of a good friend). I hope that anyone with Borderline Personality Disorder that reads this thread will not be upset by it. I recognize Borderline Personality Disorder as a mental health issue with various challenges, just like with bipolar disorder. I have read that many people with Borderline Personality disorder can find effective treatment through therapy (i.e. DBT) and they can also get some relief from various psychotropic medications.

I think that a lot of people with bipolar disorder have pushed away or lost friends because of behavior and struggles during mood episodes.Perhaps the circumstances are often different than the ones relating to Borderline Personality disorder, but some are similar or even the same. I bet a lot of people with various anxiety disorders, unipolar depression, and other mental health diagnoses can say similar. All mental health disorders unfortunately have a stigma attached by some. Borderline Personality Disorder seems to sadly have an especially severe stigma, sometimes. Sometimes people with mental health disorders stigmatize people with other mental health disorders.

I wonder what the responses would be to this thread, if posted in the Borderline Personality Disorder forum, or in the general mental illness forum, where all could respond? I sort of doubt that people with bipolar disorder interact significantly more with those with a Borderline Personality disorder diagnosis than the general public.

Oh, I hope my wording didn't come across that way. I've spoken about this openly with friends who have borderline. I'm mostly concerned about my friend and worried about who she cuts off, that's all.

If anyone was offended here these were not my intentions, I know this person well and just don't know when/how to approach them during these times. Do they need help, or do they not want to hear from me?

Hi clydeblack. I did not interpret your intentions as bad. I think the topic of losing friends or pushing away potential or existing friends is a good one. I simply wanted to mention that I see this as an issue for more than just relationships involving a person with borderline personality disorder Mental illness is rough on relationships, indeed. I am aware that a couple of the symptoms of BPD specifically relate to issues with relationships. I hope that your friend will receive some therapeutic support and that your relationship will be restored, if both parties wish.