[Lampshade501]

I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. I've Always noticed he's had some odd/disturbing behavior and I'm extremely afraid he may be a narcissist.
He's always been selfish always having to get his way and if he doesn't he gets angry and has a fit. He spends money on himself that he knows should be used for bills.
Whenever I try to talk to him about our relationship he'll get angry and ignore me. Whenever I hear him telling a story he always has to exaggerate it. When I catch him lying
He denies it even though I have evidence he still lies. The thing that has really been bothering me lately is that he recently contacted his ex behind my back, when I found out
He tried to deny it and eventually told me that he was only talking to her because they wanted closure since their relationship was rocky and ended bad. Which I can understand.
Then he began calling and texting her four hours on end I'd see it on the phone bill and he'd still try to lie and say he wasn't talking to her. Well she actually talked to me and told
Me he was saying things that he missed sex with her and that he broke up with me and basically hitting on her. She told me that he did the same to her with his ex before her and
Had all the problems I'm having. Apparently he was like this with all his previous exes. There will be days when things are great between us he tells me he loves me and etc. I
Have always felt that he was troubled emotionally or something. He refuses to get any help and thinks it's ridiculous that I even suggest it. I do alot for him and I do love him but I'm
Not sure how to get him help or what to think..,,,,

[racee]

this seems like a pattern that he has been doing and i know at times one person can think well i can help him i can change....don't be that person....if he wanted to change he would. he needs consequences! he needs to know what his actions lead to . he wants the best of both you and his ex, than it would go ob to other people. yes he needs help with his relationships and maybe something else is going on but he needs professional help and this is something that do you really want to be strung along in a relationship while someone is figuaring out while going to therapy what they want...you might just get even more hurt in the end.

and if he really does want to change than you can separate while he is "changing" and if he really wants to be with you he will wait till he gets ahold on his "wrong way of thinking" and come back and want to be with you...he already displayed he has no problem lieing to your face (red flag, worried) all this is easier said than done so i tottaly understand any choice you make.