[survivor05]

My daughter started working at a boxing gym almost 3 years ago. The man that owns it is 13 years older than her. It took awhile for us to notice the signs....he was very subtle. He has brainwashed her and she is not aloud to do anything without him. He dictates where she goes, thinks and does. She's not aloud to have a relationship with us because we are considered "evil" people. About a year ago, this is what he told me over the phone "I am going to stab you with a sword and it will be full of cancer (Had cancer 7 years ago) and death will become you because you are an evil person. I am an Isrealite and I have been given the power to wish death on evil people." He lives at the boxing gym with her and we believe he is holding her against her will by all the brainwashing! I recently was able to finally get her to respond to my messages. Now that I have her attention, I don't want to lose it but I am dealing with a complete stranger here! She in not my daughter! She has been programmed to think and feel a certain way. She says she wants to meet me somewhere for lunch. So we can talk. How do I know this isn't some trick and he's not going to be right there ready to blow my head off! I want to see her so bad but I know he controls every aspect of her life. I can't tell her how I really feel because I risk losing all contact. She believes that he is this "God" and if I don't watch what I say around her, it's going to drive her away again. I don't even know how I am going to start a conversation with her because everything she thinks and feels is sickening to me! It's what he has put in her head!

[lynn P.]

Oh wow, you're in a very tough situation and I'm sorry. How old is your daughter and does she have any mental health issues? If he communicates in the future aggressively, make sure you record and save all written communication. I understand you have to be careful what to say. At this point, I think its best to tell your daughter, you're willing to be there and your home is open, anytime she wants to call or come back. Tell her if she wants to get out, you'll help her. If that day ever comes I suggest you get a police escort. I hope your daughter eventually comes to her senses.

[survivor05]

Thank you Lynn for your post....I just need advice! I've never been through something like this before. My daughter is 20. She does not have any mental health issues, although if she ever gets away from this monster, she is going to need some serious therapy! She was always a good kid. Never caused us any problems. She finished highschool with a 4.5 GPA and was accepted to every college she applied to with some of them offering academic scholorships. I would have never imagined she would get sucked into something like this! I have already told the police that she is being brainwashed and we think that she is being held against her will. The police tell me that she would have to ask for help before they could go in and rescue her because she is over 18. They said their hands are tied. She would never ask for help because he has convinced her that all she needs is him to get through life, so she doesn't feel she needs rescued from anything! This guy has a bad rep. in our town and there has been many complaints about his place of business but obviously he's never going to get caught. He thinks he is above the law and no one can touch him. The police are familiar with these complaints but have not been able to catch him doing anything. He is very intimidating and manipulitive and gets himself out of everything. I have 2 other daughters 16 and 13 and they live in fear of him everyday! We all go to therapy. My girls are afraid to let her come back home because they don't trust her and they think that he is up to something and that the threats he's made will actually happen. I have to protect my girls and yet I want my daughter to be a part of this family too.

[survivor05]

Thank you for your post Lynn...I posted a lengthy message back and it didn't go thru....Not sure how to navigate thru site since I'm new I guess...My daughter is 20 with no mental issues...although if she ever gets away from this monster she is going to need some serious therapy. She finished highschool with a 4.5 and was accepted to every college she applied to. She was always a very good kid. She is such a beautiful girl and she never gave us any problems. We were always a very close family, with having 2 other daughters as well. Age 16 and 13. They live in fear of this man everyday and think he is going to come and kill or kidnap them!....The police told me that my daughter would have to ask for help before they could go in and rescue her because she is over 18. They say their hands are tied. I never dreamed she would allow herself to get sucked into something like this!

[CgRgSm]

Holy s*** this sounds like some kind of horror movie. Sounds like this guy kidnapped her a long time ago and forced her to do his deeds. I'm sorry but f*** that s****! You're best bet is to grab a sniper rifle and kill him from a distance. Does he have henchmen (hell, I'm sure he probably does). He ain't got no powers though. Religion is rubbish. You need to tell her what's important: get away from this man at all costs, and tell her while you still can. No one should be controlled by anyone like this, although, what the hell do I know? What we are "supposed" to be doing is an ethical and philosophical question that cannot be answered. This can't be real. What planet is this on again?