[Emily_Strange]

Lies:From having had surgery, being an heiress with great sums on money, having had three abortions in high school [but she told someone else she was a virgin during that time], being pregnant and having a miscarriage, getting raped in a foreign country[when the timing of her landing makes the event improbable], being attacked in a riot [instead of raped, in the same foreign country], pointed herself out in pictures as a skinny girl in high school but she's been overweight all her life, having diabetes, just discovering who her birth father is, the father that raised her died at thirteen [the birth father raised her all along], not knowing who her birth mother is, graduating high school, getting a grant to attend Syracuse U [she was following a boy she apparently got engaged to and never took classes], leaving college for a looong weekend to go "horseback riding" and having detailed stories to accompany, taking a class at Harvard and Harvard BEGGING her to stay, her mother doing cocaine and heroin [not the case, she pops pain killers], where she is working and if she is working, her claiming her mother is stealing money and taking out loans and credit cards in her name [its all her debt], being able to afford her shopping spree's at Target [its all credit card debt that her mother is actually paying], buying me coach and burberry purses for each holiday with her "heiress money", the amount in her paychecks, her credit score, the fact that her phone breaks every month...And now she has cancer? Probably not.

These lies have been going on for 5 years.

Whenever approached or questioned further about her claims, she gets anxious, irritable, and upset.

She seems to disappear for long periods of time, her story never seems to add up. New Jersey, Boston, Salem, New York. Randomly traveled to L.A and London.
Maybe. Who knows.

She was engaged recently, to a second man [this is true]. If he left to go on a business trip, she wouldn't leave the apartment or keep the house clean or unpack after moving. Her fiance says everything "froze" while he was gone. She was scared of being alone in the house. She apparently went to talk to a grocery store clerk because she was scared of being in the apartment alone. She would order food in. She wouldn't make her life function without him. She bossed him around. She was needy and wanted attention. He never had a moment to himself.

She owes a hefty sum of money to a mutual friend.

No one knows where she is living at the moment. No one has heard from her in a month. That tends to happen frequently.

She's addicted to sleeping pills, we think...And probably other prescriptions like her mother.
According to her, she took so many pills one night, she sleep walked, cooked, moved things around and made trails of tampons around the house while, I think, talking to herself...While unaware of what was going on. She was mostly asleep and thought it was a dream.

Her parents smoked a lot of weed.

She likes...Twilight. Haha.

What is wrong with my best friend?!

[faerie_moon_x]

Haha... she likes Twilight... that really changed the mood.

Anyway, all the lies and things point to something wrong, that's for sure. Sounds like she was trying to build herself up to be something. Maybe she feels totally worthless, so she makes up these stories. "You know, I spent a month in London. Oh, and I got you this Coach bag." And then hiding her debt, too, and blaming it on others to avoid that embarrassment.

Shopping sprees, "freezing up" when she was left alone, disappearing acts.... these are all signs of an issue, yes. But, does she seek help? Because unless she is a danger to herself or others there isn't much you can do. You can't force treatment. She has to want treatment and seek it out, too.

But, I have to say when I was in college I had a pretty sever bout of psychosis. It's clear to me now. But back then I would tell everyone and anyone about my delusions, because I believed it was 100% real. And I resent the fact that my illness was used as sort of an "amusement" to these people, and that no one ever said "You know, maybe you need some help and I'm here for you." Maybe I would have denied, defended, ignored, stopped talking to them, and done nothing. But now I would remember that someone did that, instead of remembering that no one cared.

[Ashleigh28]

Borderline personality disorder, just a guess.

My friend and I both have the disorder, she sounds a lot like your friend. She has lied about surgery, self harm, suicide attempts, you name it. She had gastric bypass and told everyone she had a kidney removed. lol.

Edited to add, she likes twilight too.

[Atypical_Disaster]

If I had to guess, I'd say a personality disorder of some kind. I can't make a diagnosis obviously since I'm no mental health professional... but GEEZ that is A LOT of lying. o_0 She sounds very disturbed and like she needs help. I hope that she can get what she needs because wow... this situation isn't going anywhere good.

[Flooded]

So WHY is she your best friend?

[Justme_55]

I have a very similar friend, her BF called me and said he thought she was Schizophrenic. The most recent lies were that she was pregnant and conceived on new years eve but her timeline keeps changing, she's adopted (she's not) her grandfather is black, her son married John travoltas niece (the same son that was supposed to be on a super secret mission overseas for yes the president.) that she attempted suicide on thanksgiving and was rushed to the hospital unconscious after overdosing on three bottles of Xanax and a bottle of vodka but she still has custody of her children..?! If you find out how to help her let me know so I can help the person I know. Such elaborate lies!

Our family knew someone with similar personality traits as your BF. I am sorry. It's so difficult because you love the person, and on the other hand, it can be very frustrating. I hope your friend will see a T.

I learned from experiernce, it hurts a lot, but you may have to set some boundaries in the relationship. And stick to them.

She's a pathological liar & either borderline, dependent, or delusional. And hopefully the lies/delusions extend to her love of Twilight as well.