[Fuzzybear]

I've been doing a bit of research on avoidant personality as my T called it. Up until now I have avoided doing that, it was too triggering for me I can see myself in a lot of the criteria but I also see hope. One of the first steps to healing from this has to be challenging the Unrealistic Negative Beliefs about oneself. Even if these beliefs sometimes feel like the Absolute Truth..... they are NOT!!!!

Love to all who struggle with this,
Fuzzy

[Sabrina]

I think challenging unrealistic negative beliefs is very hard - or at least I know it is hard for me. My husband often tells me I am my own worst enemy and I always put myself down and blame myself for everything. (I don't think that has anything to do with avoiding though).

I am so glad you are seeing some hope. Keep up the good work!

Fuzzy,

It can often be very hard and humbling to look at ones-- ummm, what shall we call them--- shortcomings? struggles? difficulties?

Doing research can give one knowledge and they say knowledge can be power.
But may I say-- please be careful-- doing research on one's own without input from a professional can sometimes be scary and confusing. Hope you are able to run your findings by someone--even a loved one or friend. Hope this doesn't feel like a lecture it's not meant to be-- I just care and hope the very best for you.
Challenging those "unrealistic negative beliefs" is indeed a great step to take! -- IMO. I relate with your struggles of AvPD(avoidant personality disorder)-- and wish you much much healing.

thanks for posting
....... I really need to repeat this--" Even if these beliefs sometimes feel like the Absolute Truth.... they are NOT !!"

Fuzzy--

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks Sabrina and Mandy for your replies. Reaching out is scary!

[bipolar_bear]

I am glad you are able to recognize that these beliefs are not real. I would think that is a huge step. I hope you keep growing and healing. I hope you have the support you need. Take care of you.

Love to you my friend!

((((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))

[Fuzzybear]

Thank you ((((((( Bear ))))))) and ((((((( Time0 )))))))


Fuzzy

fuzzy.. im so proud of ya.. That is encouraging that you are starting to realize how you are a good and worthwhile person

[Rapunzel]

Recognizing this, and reaching out, and starting to face your fears all sounds like progress to me.

Luv Ya,
Rap

[Fuzzybear]

Thank you so much, EV and Rap!!

Because I think we have both been striked today, maybe by the same thing.

Hold on! I'm trying too.

[Fuzzybear]

[CurtFarnsworth]

I can sympathise with you, I have AvPD and I know how much of a battle it's been for me.

It is nice to get some knowledge of what your dealing with, I hope it's helped you.

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks for your reply CurtFarnsworth!

And, welcome to Psych Central.

[walkswithspiritbear]

((((((fuzzybear)))))))) not good with words right now so all I can offer is my hug and a shoulder should the need arise... linda

[fortunato4459]

Hi ...my first post here......im new to "personality disorders"...think im a mixed bag of two or more with depression. I myself have always been one to AVOID anything that could potentially cause me pain or be uncomfortablke for me to deal with ....hence my entering therapy at the age of 54...i am going in Tuesday morn the 19th for a complete evaluation. Nice to be here.... <font color="blue"> </font>

[Fuzzybear]

Hi fortunato, welcome! Good luck on Tuesday, I hope you keep posting

[Peanut61]

<font color="red">(((((Sweet Fuzzy)))))</font>

XOXO, Peanut aka Candle

[Fuzzybear]

You are such a sweetie, thanks dear ((((((((((( Peanut )))))))))))