[socarp1]

Hey guys,

I have been a introvert most of my life. But i don’t have problems making new connections. But i have been told that I only care about my own interests and my ego.

I don’t like small talk and often wait until a topic that interests me is bought up. I often go around and and daydream and fantasize of success.

Family and sisters have pointed out that I often talk too much about myself, and ask too little about their lives. Or that I often interrupt while they are talking. And that im a bad listener. I often wait until the other person has finished talking before I can talk about what interests me.

Friends and people have called my egocentric and selfish. I have a hard time to act interested in other people. Most people seems to bore me quickly. And I rarely go deeper to learn to know them of this. I often start daydreaming in middle of conversations. Sometimes I feel superior and act arrogant to other people. And I make prejudgements easily.

Im very protective of my life and I don’t trust people easily. I have a few close friends that became really close after years of hanging out and opening up. People think im arrogant because of this. Most social gatherings drain me and im better of on my own focusing on my passions and goals.

I have noticed it has started to affect my life and especially romantic relationships and dating.

Anyone can relate to this or if I have a “diagnose”? Self centered? Ego? Narcissism?

How can i engage better and act interested in other people? Rather than focusing on my thoughts, my feelings, my interests, and that everything should circle around me?

Any self help books to recommend or tips to provide?

[RedEagle]

Maybe you genuinely aren't interested in other people. In order to get along well with other people you first have to be:

1. Happy and comfortable with yourself
2. Assertive
3. Have very firm boundaries set
4. Have had all your childhood and adult emotional needs met

If you don't meet any of these conditions being around others will only be at best an unpleasant experience.

[jaofao]

Grow bored with yourself!

Ask yourself a few questions: Are you really egocentric (because people can be judgmental too)? Are you so amazing that you deserve all of your attention? Can you become more interested in what others care about, which are themselves, their problems, what they say?