[gmil]

I don't always get back to people on time, and I don't always get things done on time.

But, who doesn't?

The problem is once and a while, instead of apologizing for a small mistake, I put off the apology and almost all contact, until it's about 1000 times worse.

I'm talking about a customer/client who left me a voicemail during the holidays, which was one of the most stressful and busiest times I've ever had for several personal events colliding. A customer who was beyond thrilled with me. Voicemail gets unreturned, I get another. Then, I get another with a feeling of he's on the edge of giving up and going elsewhere. And, I just can't figure out what to say or fix it, so I lose him as a customer.

I'm talking about a family member who gives me a computer to remove a virus from and give back to them. I tell them it should be about a week. Maybe two weeks go by, and they ask me about it, and I apologize and say I'll have it done really soon. Then the cycle continues, and before I know it, it's been 6 months and they've bought a new computer.

And, during these periods, I'm still being productive with other people and other projects. It's not like I'm in a do nothing slump.

I'm not always a procrastinator, but these examples certainly fit the cycle of anxiety-procrastination.

I feel like it's something more.

I am NOT asking for a condition that I may have. I know diagnosis can't happen over a forum. I am ONLY asking for what conditions would have an element of periodic severe procrastination, to the point where it's borderline life wrecking.

For example, can someone with borderline personality disorder have sporadic problems with falling off the face of the earth for people important to them and depending on them? (If the other criteria is met?) Could someone with borderline be so afraid of abandonment over a small issue, that they make the issue get so much larger to cause abandonment that wouldn't have otherwise happened?

[Crazy Hitch]

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