[Ralphie2]

I am a senior citizen and after doing much research came to the realization that my family members are an almost perfect fit for the passive aggressive personality. I had heard about passive aggressive personality but until recently there was no detailed information available.

Believe it or not, my wife, daughter, son-in-law, and one of the grandsons are passive aggressive. When I confronted them and urged them to seek treatment (especially the grandsons, who are troubled), they retaliated and are shunning me.

I thought of seeing a doctor but I don't have a doctor I see regularly. So I don't really have anyone to talk to. Can anyone offer advice?

[lavendersage]

Oh my. I wish that I did. Truthfully, though, what comes to mind is that would drive me NUTS. I hope others come along with advise for you. I imagine it must be very cballenging.

[LaDauphine]

I FORCE myself to be passive aggressive simply because I think it's ironically becoming a dominant trait. No one appreciates honesty and confrontation anymore, you know? People SAY they do, but the truth speakers - regardless or how diplomatic they are - always get dumped on. The messenger will continue to get shot, so to speak.

The good news about their type of behaviour is it's easy to "worm" your way back in. all you need is time and to IGNORE the issue. What's the point in trying to help them when you're so outnumbered? You'd need someone in your corner for your efforts to be of any use.

It's munfortunate that you're being shunned and that they're like this, but just because they're passive and "troubled" in your eyes doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them.