[metalchick]

Ok so I have this new friend. I do not make friends very often and really don't have any at all, so by far this is a miracle from god. Anyway, I don't know too much about him and when I get a piece of info like his last name, I immediately want to go to the Internet and look him up. I feel like I shouldn't do that because well its like an invasion of privacy. My nature is to really get all the information I can about him. I feel funny asking certain things and really in the scheme of things it really doesn't matter. We are just friends. But I still want to do it. This happens whenever I meet anyone. Please help!!!!

No. If you were a stalker you would be doing it obsessively hanging out side his house. Or following him.

If you just look him up on the internet, that is pretty normal nowadays.

"Stalker" is such a loaded word. Think of yourself as a researcher, or an investigator. You're just curious.

Originally Posted by Lefty the Salesman

"Stalker" is such a loaded word. Think of yourself as a researcher, or an investigator. You're just curious.

Lol.haha

[here today]

Great ideas, guys! There is a new book out that I haven't read, just happened to hear about:

https://www.amazon.com/Curious-Desir.../dp/0465079962

^ Looks like an interesting book.

[catman8989]

Stalker and wanting to know someone are to vast things. I used to do the same thing.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Why does this behavior seem like an invasion of privacy to you? It sounds pretty normal to me, considering how easy it is to find information on just about anyone online these days.

[metalchick]

Idk, I think it has to do with when I was younger...how did you get to know someone? There was no such as facebook, google, and in fact internet came around when I was a teen. We had to get to know people by spending time with them. Now it is so easy to find basic info about someone. Maybe I feel like I am stalking because I am not letting myself get to know him personally, instead I go behind his back and find out from a computer. It is like I am spying on him and not letting the friendship run its course.

[SvanThor]

Originally Posted by Lefty the Salesman

"Stalker" is such a loaded word. Think of yourself as a researcher, or an investigator. You're just curious.

Honestly, I agree with this. I feel like if you were a stalker, you'd be spending time watching him through his windows.

[metalchick]

That would be impossible for me. But I feel like I need to get all the information about him that I possibly can. I guess maybe it is more like spying???

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by metalchick

That would be impossible for me. But I feel like I need to get all the information about him that I possibly can. I guess maybe it is more like spying???

Why do you feel like you need so much information about this guy?

[metalchick]

Well I did catch him in a lie. And he promised that he was telling the truth, but it was total b.s. The problem is that I like him as a person except for this one thing he fibbed about.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Why is it a problem?

[metalchick]

I just want to make sure he isn't messing with me. People are so mean and I guess I have my guard up. He is a bit wierd with me. One minute he is really cool with me and the next he will say some s**t like we need to like each other. And I am like o.k. I thought we do, that's why we hang out. So I am feeling like does this guy want to be friends or what??? I just don't completely trust him yet.