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Oct 04, 2016, 10:47 PM
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Schadenfreude is the term for secret happiness when others fail. I am very scared because I realize I do this all the time; it mainly only happens with people I am jealous if (which is admittedly quite a few people in my life, for various reasons). What can be done about this??? What personality disorder is this associated with and is this a sign of a serious problem?
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#2
Oct 04, 2016, 11:24 PM
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Maybe it's a common human wanting to get back at someone . |
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Oct 04, 2016, 11:56 PM
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I flourish in the Schade. A family to which I once felt very close but who betrayed me has come upon very hard times, and it has been a fappening.
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Oct 05, 2016, 01:34 AM
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I think it a bit of human nature, but at the same time, should try to be controlled.
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Oct 05, 2016, 03:11 PM
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I think it's human nature, too. I had my "wanting to hurt other people" impulse cut off or dissociated, believe it or not, so the therapy for dissociation is to try to get those things back! Because they're there, whether you are aware or act on them or not, and it messes you up to have part of yourself cut off.
So, yeah, now I know the "If you hurt me I'll hurt you back" impulse. It happens AFTER I feel a rage response and want the other people to care about that! And if they don't, if they can't make things right with me, then the "I want to hurt you impulse" shows up. Don't have to act on it. But, yeah, if something does hurt them . . .just some primitive reaction to feel satisfaction in the "I want to hurt you" impulse even if I didn't act on it. Probably starts because of the jealousy? Not something you have any control over (much) either? Main thing for that -- my guess -- would be a stronger sense of self, loving yourself, self-esteem, etc. Which is something lacking(or else overblown) in a bunch of PD's I would guess. Certainly true for me (PDNOS)! Last edited by here today; Oct 05, 2016 at 03:37 PM. |
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Oct 05, 2016, 08:51 PM
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What can be done? Try to increase your self-esteem.
So that you know that you are strong enough to be your own person, instead of reacting to how other people are behaving or what they are experiencing. If you are strong and happy, another person's fortune or misfortune, will have nothing to do to you. |
| Atypical_Disaster, defyinggravity65
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Oct 06, 2016, 11:39 AM
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My advice to you would be to stop trying to find out what label your cluster of problems would fall under and start focusing on how to solve them.
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Oct 07, 2016, 10:04 AM
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Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder ("Pure O" Type), Social Anxiety Rx: Lorazepam PRN |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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