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I dont know...
Its like everything can be OK but then just one tiny thing goes wrong and I get all upset...
Like if I dont get what I want for tea or something...
I dont know, Im scared it may just be that Im a spoilt, selfish drama queen or something...
But I dont make a big scene or anything Im just quiet and upset till something really good happens to make up for it.

For example totay was OK, I opened all my presents and stuff and I was happy (as much as I usually am)
But I get this perfume from my gran that, yes, I did ask for so its my own fault, but I asked for it without knowing what it smelt like (stupid, I know)
Now Ive got it and smelt it and I dont like it
Now Im all depressed...
I dont know why coz its was my own fault, right?

Its also that I wasted my grans money, but mostly coz I have a wasted present... I dont know actually, maybe it is more guilty coz my gran wasted her money... Im not sure

I always see what I dont have...
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I dont know...
Its hard to explain how I feel and stuff...
Does it sound like Im just selfish or what?..

[okiedokie]

Hi 47,
Merry Christmas and welcome to PC!

Perhaps if you try not to keep score in your head, you may feel better. As far as your gran's present, maybe you could exchange it for what you want? I'd ask her for the receipt or what store she got it at.
Take good care,
Okie

[ECHOES]

hi there and Merry Christmas

Maybe your gran's present could be symbolic of her desire to give you just what you wish for.

Be good and kind and forgiving of yourself.

[_Hope_]

emotions can be hard to figure out, try not to be so hard on yourself.

linda

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((( 47 )))))))))

[Perna]

Numbers, welcome to PsychCentral (PC). I sometimes have a lot of trouble with disappointment. I was telling my husband the other day about when I was 5 or 6 and asked for bow and arrows for Christmas (only apparently on my Christmas list wrote it as "bony arrows") I was wanting to be like an indian and kill my own food/be self-sufficient (all in the suburbs of a large city, mind you) and instead, I got a lame children's set with suction cup tips that wouldn't even stick to anything and was extremely disappointed.

I think we get expectations going in our head but don't make sure we understand where they're coming from and what we "really" want (you obviously wanted to smell/look like whatever ad or person you had seen wearing the perfume were like?) and, we make additional problems for ourselves by not giving very much information to other people. I'm sure if I had explained why I wanted the bow and arrows my mother would have explained why my fantasy couldn't happen and if you'd mentioned to your grandmother that you'd never smelled the perfume before, you just liked the "image" she might have thought twice about buying the perfume.

I don't think we're drama queens, we just haven't learned to make our actual needs known to ourselves and others. Do you have a therapist? I was helped with mine to at least understand what disappointment feels like to me so when it happens I can identify it and then look to see where it is coming from. I only got a couple of "lame" gifts from my husband this Christmas and that was a little disappointing but I didn't give him very many hints as to what I might want or even that I wanted much. He can't read my mind. I remember it took a couple of Easters before I got into his head that I require a milk chocolate rabbit on Easter :-) Now I don't have to worry about that, I get one for sure and it's even a fun joke between us.

[selfy]

*hugs beth*
yah, i agree with perna. u no if u dont make your needs known enough, noone will know. yah. its even harder if u dont know what u want mind,,, like this xmas with me. but yeah
merry xmas

self

[AlteredState01]

Regifting is becoming more and more popular these days. Just save it in it's original packaging and pass it off to someone else next year.

As the saying goes: "Someone's trash is anothers' treasure." (or something like that)