[Radford]

I was traumatized by menstruation.Although I have somehow adjusted to this monthly occurrence,I still feel some dread towards it.Many times I wish that it would stop itself from occurring.I was just a twelve-year-old when it first occurred and I can still recall how BRUTAL it was.No child should be subjected to such a sight of violence.Please remember that I am a female-to-male transsexual(FTM).
Menstruation constitutes a psychological trauma to the female-to-male transsexual(FTM) according to Harry Benjamin MD.

[silver_queen]

I'm not sure how this works but my friend had some kind of needle thing stuck in her arm and it stops her periods for a few months, I'm not sure what it's called or what exactly it is, sorry. Maybe consider talking with your dr and seeing what he can suggest?

[patricia72]

It is called profervera and when I was using it I stopped menstruating for 2 yrs! I was happy....
Unfortunately I had to stop but you can ask your doc about it
Sorry you are going through this, wishing you the best,
Patricia

[Radford]

Thanks for responding silver_queen and Patricia.Silver_queen, I think it's called acupuncture.I'm not sure,though if that's the term for it.I'll check that out with my physician.
And I want to add something else.I have decided to just let go of menstruation and accept it as it is because not having periods results in osteopenia and osteoporosis.I currently have these bone diseases which are the result of my secondary amenorrhea(absence of menstruation). 'Irregular or abnormal absence of menstrual periods predispose an individual to subsequent bone loss.This is likewise related to the lack of estrogen one is exposed to.'
The absence of menstruation really wreaks havoc in a biologically female body.Without menstruation,a woman's bones become fragile or 'porous'.
I am psychologically male(my mind is male) but my body is that of a female,that's why when menarche came,I was really traumatized.I have never cried that much in my life.It's the most awful thing that has ever happened to me.
But,well,that's already in the past and now I am here.I have survived but I did not came out of it unscathed.I have wounds.Whatever happens after now,I really do not know.I'll just do my best to cope with this situation.
Well,that's all.I hope I did not make both of you sad by sharing my story.Thanks for listening and may God bless you both always.

Much thanks,
Ogie

[funnygirl]

Ogie

Yes, it must be a horrible ordeal for you each month.

I hope you are not offended by my question, but weren't you offered surgery in your female-to-male transition? I'm no expert but believe that corrective surgery is offered as a matter of course here in the UK, together with hormone treatment.

FG

[funnygirl]

Ogie

I think our posts crossed, and I now see you are reconciled to having your menstruation. Sorry to have made those suggestions. You are right to be concerned about your bones.

Keep well.

FG

[(JD)]

That is something few ppl realize is a real problem for some! Yes the birth control methods can help get through that. Now, about your bones, it's so good that science has developed at least one medicine that replaces the calcium into our bones! I suspect more are to come. Please don't worry... do what you can and keep going. TC

[LMo]

Ogie... I don't have any advice but I want to say that I'm sorry about your feelings of trauma. I wish I had something helpful to say, but nevertheless I want to offer you my support

[Martha G.]

I had my menarche one month and five days after my twelfth birthday, and it was by far the absolute worst thing that ever happened to me. At that time I was on vacation with my family in Washington, D.C, and I've never been there since. When I had my menarche, I became severely depressed for the next two years. I felt like my entire childhood was gone, and this broke my heart, shattering it to pieces. I bawled my eyes out at night for days afterward, and the next day I felt like I had a mattress between my legs. In addition, I wanted absolutely nothing at all whatsoever to do with the adult world. If there had been such a place as Neverland, you can be certain I would've gone there without a second thought. I would've gone to Neverland forever and never looked back. But of course, this was not an option. I very much regret to say that there was indeed a time in my life when I would have rather died than grown up. I hate to admit it, but at that time death seemed more inviting than even the very concept of growing up. Thankfully, it's not at all like that now. I'm 28 years old and happily married to a loving, supportive husband. Even so, after all these years, the memory of my first perios continues to haunt me, albeit less severely. I've spoken to my long-time therapist about this, and he suggested I go online in search of support groups, which is why I'm here now. I thought for many years I was the only girl to react to her menarche this way. It is indeed very comforting to know I'm not the only one after all.

[Elysium]

I hate it to this day!!

I wish it would stop completely.

I'm 34 and significantly overweight. There are thoughts I may have PCOS as some labs came back funny and the menses is not always regular. I can't really take birth control because of the health risks.

If it weren't for the fact that I want to be a Mother some day I would have a voluntary hysterectomy/oopherectomy, just to stop the menses.

I'm not sure why, but I have always felt dirty...as if the menses makes me less pure. It's just disgusting. I have no memory of my first one or how old I was. All I remember is the shame and embarrassment...and the disgust I felt