People always leave. Why do they go?

[pegasus]

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I don't know what you are refering to, but it is very stressful being LEFT.

[Fuzzybear]

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What pegasus said......

I struggle with getting close to people because of this very reason.

[allthegirls6]

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would it help if i came and swam in your pool?

Of course. I didn't know you could swim. I have floaties.

Sweet Tunia,

It's not because you don't try hard enough that people leave........ please don't let yourself take the blame. (I do this so often )

You are so dear and sweet-- it's not you I'm sure..... it's their issues and what they are struggling with.

It does hurt though, I understand that feeling of people leaving.

So many are still here for you.

Tunia--

Mandy

[SweetSunshine]

Pet honey whats wrong? I'm not goin anywhere. I'm too stubborn lol. Besides I love ya'll too much So I'll fight to stay k?

Hugz~
Bethy

Maybe it's just a pity party on my part. But under the dirt looks so good sometimes as opposed to in it.

I feel exactly the same way sometimes.

I will stay here for you

People always leave. Why do they go?

People leaves for different reasons. There is a lot going on in a person's life and sometime it is best for a person to just leave and take another path. The way we were raised, our environment, our social life, our meaning of life, our feelings, all these, can be quite different from one another.

Petunia, if you don't mind, I'm going to take you and I for exemple. If tonight I decide to go away, it's not because you did something wrong. It could be because I have grown in a way that I have to take another path and you wouldn't be happy on the path I am taking because this path doesn't mean a thing to you. Or it could be because YOU have grown in a way that I can't follow you anymore and because I love you and respect you, I am just going to let you go so that you can, yourself, grow.

It's not because YOU are not important that people leaves but because of the crossroads puts so often on this journey called life.

I understand your feelings on this one. I really do. I'm just trying to make you see this in a different way so to ease a bit your pain.

(((((((((Petunia)))))))))))

[bipolar_bear]

(((((((((((((Petunia)))))))))))))))) It really hurts when people leave doesn't it.

[(JD)]

People aren't as good as plants...who stay in place!

I just want to share something here, I hope it's ok Petunia, if not, let me know, I will delete it.

Some people don't let others get close to them because they are scare they will leave and then it will hurt so terribly. I know it does hurt, I have been there.

Now, I don't let people get close to me because I don't want them to hurt when I will leave. I do this to protect them.

[(JD)]

time.

[Fuzzybear]

I also feel exactly this way sometimes..... too much of the time

Fuzzy Bears don't budge (((((((((((( Petunia )))))))))))))

Petunia.

I hate letting people get too close to me because of that reason. In fact there was one person I met in a real time support group who needed a babysitter because her family needed more money to make ends meet. her husband was in the military. I have had my share of military friends leaving me because they got stationed in other states and then went over seas and because they're life went in other directions because of the military we would lose contact for months at a time. So When this new friend asked if I do daycare I told her flat out yes but don't expect her and I to become friends because I have had enough of military friends leaving. I understood its a job but it sucks because I was the one left picking up the pieces and I wasnt going to do that again. She said ok and drove me on base so I could meet her two children. Needless to say first the children made their way into my heart and then she did and we became insepratable. To the point shere when I had my child she was in the labor room with me, and I appointed her the guardian of my child if my terminal desease took me before he was an adult. That friendship lasted 7 years. That friendship ended the first time when she chose drugs and alcohol over the welfare and welbeing of my child and hers. a few years later I started contact again because I found out her perpetrator was being moved out of normal prison to a private prison hospital. We both wanted to try and salvage the friendship at least thats what she said and I gave her the benefit of the doubt and tried to build the friendship back together. a year went by and I found out she was under servalance for drug trafficing the official person who told me this advised me to cut off contact because she knew I had a DHS case and when they brought her down they didn't want me accidentally being caught in the middle of something I had no part of. So I had to cut off contact with her.

She is on one road and I am on the other and there is no middle ground anymore for either one of us to stand on. So I have no choice but to leave her behind and continue on my road that is best for me.

But you what? If I had remained the ice queen against making friends with military people I would have missed out of 7 years of the greatest friendship I have ever had with a military friend. I have alot of freinds and I can tell you that that strong of a bond does not come very often. I think I have about 5 friends that I have that strong a bond with out of many friends that I have.

People leave for lots of reasons - different lifestyles, relocating and so on and in life all we really can do is enjoy the time we have with each one and take it as far as that friendship will go and when the time comes where one or both need to go take new roads I know that I will always carry a part of that person with me forever. Because I took the chance to build that friendship I know that I will never truely be alone and I dont always lose them. in fact my memory piece known as Darlene is in part my memories of another friend Darlene the person. The memorys of the people I meet are somewhere locked up in this brain of mine. it just takes time to find them. The person Darlene lives many states away from me and the type of business she is in we don't get much time with talking together except an occasional email. But just because she isn't in my life 100% of the time does not mean she is gone. She is just across country and when she is busy helping to put her business back together from Katrina I have my memorys of her to hold on to and keep me going.

I used to belive I was at fault for why we lost contact many many years ago but when I found her she explained why she had to leave and that what I had believed for so many years had nothing to do with what an abuser made me believe.

when people leave its not always because it is our fault. so hang in there.

Petunia,

I just want to tell you that I think you are a wonderful person. I mean this.

I am giving you my love and my compassion.

((((((((((Petunia)))))))))))

PS I am not asking nothing in return.

[pegasus]

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How are you?

[Gemstone]

{{{{ Petunia }}}}}

I'm sorry I missed this.