[TTUAH]

Hi folks

I haven't been too active on here but have done quite a lot of reading.

I just wanted to say thanks so much for accepting me as you have.

Many of you have also been very helpful in opening my eyes (to you especially Open Eyes :-)).

Whilst I continue to work through our issues with my partner, can I say you are all such beautiful people and I really hope you are able to get the care and recovery you so truly deserve. I've now only truly discovered the difficulties faced by so many and my heart goes out to everyone carrying the burden of this illness that does not allow so many to see their true beauty and value in this world.

Your strength is admirable, inspirational and will get you through.

Hugs to you all (((((o)))))

TTUAH

[Open Eyes]

TTuah,

Oh it is so nice to know you are feeling better about supporting your beautiful partner. I am glad we were able to help you understand (((HOW))) you can help her heal herself, because that is what takes place really. It happens faster when the right support is given and the person suffering feels very safe and understood. It was very smart of you to come here and ask questions, listen to those of us that experience PTSD who can share with you what we have needed as support as well.

Please remember we are here and that when she does things you don't understand, you have a place to come where you have people who have experienced it and can help guide you to continue to give her the right support.

And the other thing you need to provide in this situation, is support for yourself. Men tend to think they need to be fixers as I mentioned and they can take on a lot and forget that they have needs too. You are only human and your not going to be perfect with your beautiful partner, that is ok, you are there and trying.

So just come here when you need support PLEASE? You deserve that, you both do. There will be times when your partner will be embarassed and feel like she is a burden to you. Keep telling her that you love her and even though she is struggling, you know she is trying, you fully support her efforts, you know this is a challenge and she needs to be patient and that you are ok with it, you are there for her. Remember that sometimes there will be those snappy short temper times and she may snap at you. Don't take that to heart, she just needs to get that out and work on controling it better.

(((Hugs)))
Open Eyes