[Living Well]

They are refusing to provide payment methods or take my rent out of my account. They are trying to invoice me for their own company's bills. They are threatening me with a notice to leave because they won't sign and return the lease that I have signed and returned to them.

I have to move and I will have to go to court because of this nonsense. I love where I live and I've been a great tenant in all ways.

I'm raw.

I'm sorry that they are still trying to hassle you. That can't be legal can it? I'm glad you are still fighting them but can't you stay in your home while the legal procedures are going on?
This sounds like intentional harassment.

[Open Eyes]

((((Living Well))))

I am sorry that you are experiencing this, you do have a right to be upset. As far as I can see you HAVE been paying rent and you HAVE done the correct things to abide by your responsibility.

I do not think they can legally evict you as you do have a child and THEY have to PROVE that you are not paying etc., so you are not going to get thown out all too quickly, so try to calm down that sense of urgency you are feeling, that is the PTSD kicking in.

You have gotten help before with this and there IS help for this and yes, they are in the wrong here so it is going to take you some time to address it and straighten it out. Don't let yourself go to the grief and loss department in your brain yet. Take some deep slow breaths, go for a walk and calm down. There WILL be a solution to this problem. It just caught you off guard which is a lot more upsetting when you struggle with PTSD. So first, you have to address that and get yourself to a better place emotionally.

We are here to support you and listen Living Well.

(((Hugs))))
Open Eyes

[Living Well]

Originally Posted by George H.

I'm sorry that they are still trying to hassle you. That can't be legal can it? I'm glad you are still fighting them but can't you stay in your home while the legal procedures are going on?
This sounds like intentional harassment.

Hi George, thanks so much for your post. There is not one observer in real life looking at the evidence that is not saying this is intentional harassment and that they are preying on me because they know I am weakened by permanent disability and chronic health issues, and in and out of hospital.

I don't totally see it that way. I believe that this real estate is incompetent and unethical with no regard for the law. I suspect that I am one of many and that their actions just impact on me more because I am so sick with no family or friendship group irl.

Nursing two sick cats back to health so they can be adopted out to good homes from the shelter has been a fantastic rewarding distraction. I'm finding it really hard to eat and sleep but concentrate my efforts on managing these two factors - as having them managed will be essential in get through this difficult time.

Thanks again George (((hugs)))

[Living Well]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

((((Living Well))))

I am sorry that you are experiencing this, you do have a right to be upset. As far as I can see you HAVE been paying rent and you HAVE done the correct things to abide by your responsibility.

I do not think they can legally evict you as you do have a child and THEY have to PROVE that you are not paying etc., so you are not going to get thown out all too quickly, so try to calm down that sense of urgency you are feeling, that is the PTSD kicking in.

You have gotten help before with this and there IS help for this and yes, they are in the wrong here so it is going to take you some time to address it and straighten it out. Don't let yourself go to the grief and loss department in your brain yet. Take some deep slow breaths, go for a walk and calm down. There WILL be a solution to this problem. It just caught you off guard which is a lot more upsetting when you struggle with PTSD. So first, you have to address that and get yourself to a better place emotionally.

We are here to support you and listen Living Well.

(((Hugs))))
Open Eyes

Hey OE ((Thanks))
What they have done is stopped the direct debit and they are not taking my rent out and they are giving me no other way to pay, so they have "grounds" to get rid of me. However, it is illegal not to give a tenant a way to pay their rent. I have contacted the landlord directly for an account number to pay him directly to no avail. If I move out earlier it will contain the amount of rent arrears the real estate is trying to create. They get hundreds of dollars let-fee from the landlord by renting it out to someone else.
Thank you for being so switched on about how PTSD impacts on this situation. The people on my side in real life, are on my side because of the legislation, and I can't expect them to understand how it is impacting on me with my illnesses. My specialists have all noted the downturn in my health over the past month due to the stress this real estate situation. There could be disability laws that the real estate could be sued civilly under but I want less hassle not more - and I suppose that is what they are counting on. Also I don't believe there is sufficient evidence that they are targetting me just because I am disabled. There is more evidence pointing to the fact that they simply cannot managed their business affairs and that it is incompetence not conspiracy.
Thanks OE,
Jade xxx

[Open Eyes]

(((Living Well))),

I hope you can get this straightened out, I know what it is like to deal with incompedency. I dealt with that all last year with my own attorney in a lawsuit I am involved in regarding my neighbors negligence with his dog that destroyed so much.
So I really feel for you, it just wiped me out last year. Yes, I could have filed a complaint regarding my attorney, but I was just so wiped out I didn't have the energy. And my attorney is well aware how much I am suffering from PTSD, but he was still incompedent.

Well, I don't want to get all into MY struggle, but just know I hear you and I really hope you get this straightened out.

You will definitely be in my prayers Living Well. Keep us informed on how you are doing and go ahead and vent if you need to.

(((Hugs)))
Open Eyes

[Living Well]

Hey OE,
I'm sorry you had that happen to you and it impacted on your health too.
I allowed a tenancy agency intervene and they asked the real estate for a bank account number for me to pay my rent into. The real estate gave a false account number.
I don't know if I told you about the house across the road that came up for rent. I was told by that real estate that there was already a pretty solid application being processed at the time, so not to get my hopes up, and sure enough, they contacted me to say the first applicant had been approved. I was disappointed but understood - and was shocked the next day when they told me the approved applicant removed their application after it was approved and they would be processing mine. A lot of information had to be given to prove that the breaches against me were baseless. The agent pre approved me and was really keen and confident and took the application to the landlord who said "where there is smoke there is fire, she must have done something to create that situation". I was upset and thought "why would I want a bigotted landlord anyway". I cried a lot yesterday over all the frustration, and I also had some white hot rage come up over feeling so powerless and stuck and wrongly fully vilified - so I took a valium and didn't act on my generalised rage. Because I'm desperate I emailed the real estate and said, "I resubmit my application but request a 3 month lease so the landlord can gain confidence with me while reducing his perceived risk". The agent rang me today and I was thinking she was going to say "Look you didn't get approved, get over it and stop bugging us" but she said "The landlord looked over the evidence last night and could see that you have acted impeccably in a difficult situation. He is sorry for his misjudgement yesterday and would like to offer you either a six month or years lease; whatever you prefer". I signed up on a 6mth lease, paid a deposit and issued a notice of intention to leave to my existing real estate. I will make an appointment with the tenancy agency next week because the legal mess with the old real estate still has to be sorted out - but what I have done is contained the length of time I am under duress as they daily taunted me with the basic need for shelter.
I am going to make an appointment with the tenancy agency for Tues/Wed, and go over the application for the court case. They have committed at least 56 violations to the laws that govern real estate agents in our state so far, so its going to bigger than ben hur and it may take a couple of years off court appearances to have my record cleared. Yes, you can imagine what my PTSD thinks of that. This stuff just adds to the body of pain already there. Even though everyone says it is it a obvious case, I have learnt not to trust the process of justice or what I think are outcomes of integrity and clear thought, from carefully examining quality evidence. For that, I think I need to look at the times of my life where things did turn out in the end.. by turning out, I don't necessarily mean "as I wanted"... I'm happy even when someone makes a decision contrary to what I want if I understand the factors, the process the reasoning. Absurd outcomes shatter me and make me feel like I'm free falling.
So Open Eyes, Your prayers, have worked, my dear. Me and my boy are moving forward, and in the most disruptive way to the house we like across the street. We keep our same neighbourhood - and don't need to even hire a truck for the move lol.
It's the same rent, less mowing.... and a remote garage door! woohoo, it took to 40 but I will have my very own remote garage I think it will be good for me to resume the PTSD work in patches, not too much, not too little. It's important work for me and I don't want to stagnate.

Hugs to you my dear friend. You bring love and light to my life and I thank you for that.

(((I hope your relationship with your daughter is taking gentle baby steps forward)))

Much love,

Jade x

[Open Eyes]

(((Living Well))),

Oh that fills me up with joy to hear you are finding your way through the mess and that even though it was hard on you, you will end up in a better place. And I can see how all of this is aggrivating the PTSD. However, you are also now seeing "how" this aggrivates the PTSD as well. That is what I realized myself and it is important to pay attention to what you DID do to manage the PTSD. You noticed the extreme anger, it is not just anger with PTSD, it is often Rage inside, so managing it is not as easy.
But learning how to slowly gain control over that is progress.

I noticed that on Memorial Day, when the neighbor appeared suddenly while I was having a much needed close time with my daughter, boy did I just fill up with RAGE.
After the neighbor walked away, I walked up to my barn and worked on reclaiming my composure. I did calm myself down without any medication, which is not easy, and I managed to salvage the day with my daughter. I had every right to be angry, but as you know, the rage is very hard to manage. I don't dwell on the fact that I had the rage, I focus on how I didn't continue to feed into it and worked my way out of it, and that is progress.

It is a lot of work to manage the strong emotions that present with this PTSD, I just find that each time, I get so I manage it a LITTLE better, and give myself credit for whatever I do better.

This was hard on you Living Well, but you are getting through it. You defintely deserve some peace for a while.

(((Hugs)))
Open Eyes