[Kettle]

I am a mom of three and I battle PTSD everyday. My boyfriend is very emotionally abusive and can not understand what I am going through. On a daily basis he tells me I am worthless, lazy, bad mother. This makes everything worse for me I completely shut down emotionally. I am on disability so my children and I rely on him financially because of this I have to beg him for money for necessities, and I am terrified to ask him because I know asking for money will start him on the course of belittling me. He has thrown me out of the house and I was homeless for about a week. I begged him to let me back in the house because I have no where to go. I promised him that I would be better at cleaning the house, and I would not ask for money. The problem is my PTSD is worse now, I feel stuck and in constant fear of being homeless. He says that I would never get custody of my youngest child (he is the biological father) because I have mental issues. This terrifies me and makes me feel like I have no options. I can't function I can't deal with my past trauma and the current abuse. I use t.v. as a way to numb myself but it consumes me. How can I get him to understand how ill I am? I don't know how to make him believe me, to stop putting me down or threatening to take my son away from me, or threatening to throw me out because I did't fold the clothes. Please help

[kaliope]

He is an abuser. he will never understand these things. You will never get better until you are out of that situation. continuing to live there is what is making your ptsd worse. you need to get into treatment so you can find the strength to get yourself into a better place. welcome to psych central. you will find that we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

Contact the local domestic violence center in your area and have them help you and your children "escape" this monster.

A local women's shelter will help you and your children with whatever it is that you need until you are able to stand on your own without help from an abuser that's only making your condition worse.

Do this TODAY!

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

[Hellion]

If he is abusive even if you could make him understand how much you struggle he either wouldn't care or would just use it against you to make you feel even worse. The best option would be to get out of that relationship...I don't think its true that having a mental illness bars you from getting custody of your kids I think it would be more about if the mental illness makes you totally unable to care for them.

If you are on disability why do you rely on him for money? I would think you get money from disability and might even qualify for other sorts of assistance...sorry I don't know exactly what resources would be availible where you are but it seems like you need more financial help....and I know there are likely options aside from relying on your abusive boyfriend.

[Open Eyes]

You should try to find a small recorder and record what he says to you so you have proof he is emotionally abusing you.

A cell phone camera might do it too. But in any case, you do need to contact a shelter ASAP. If you put up with this, you are unwittingly teaching your children that it is acceptable.

[yumi]

Originally Posted by Pfrog

Contact the local domestic violence center in your area and have them help you and your children "escape" this monster.

A local women's shelter will help you and your children with whatever it is that you need until you are able to stand on your own without help from an abuser that's only making your condition worse.

Do this TODAY!

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

^this^

Don't wait as long as I did. By the time I did, I was so far gone. Embarrassingly enough, it was a disaster. I had zero coping skills left.

[Faking sane]

You don't need him to understand, you just need to get away from him. Find a domestic violence shelter in your area and be sure to tell them what he said about custody of your child. That is how my abuser got me to stay for so long... He always held the threat of stealing my kids away over me. In the end, his family did end up stealing them away because I failed to protect myself (and thus, them) from his abuse. We had to agree on a family member or they had to go to a foster home. In retrospect, i should have chosen the foster, but i did not want that for my kids. This is not a healthy relationship for you to be in. He will only make you sicker. You do not need him. There is help available. Mentally abusing someone who is mentally disabled is beyond reprehensible!

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[marmaduke]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

You should try to find a small recorder and record what he says to you so you have proof he is emotionally abusing you.

Good idea, get proof. He sounds like the ill one!

[BLUEDOVE]

He's a nut! Please get away from him,see someone in
social services, tell them the blackmail he puts upon you re your son ------YOU MUST GET HELP!
God Bless,
BLUEDOVE

[Mysterious Flyer]

He's an abuser. That is a mental issue of his. You should get child support from him and the dad of the other two kids. He is not going to get custody of the baby after having kicked you out on the streets. Between that and the disability, you don't need him. Once your kids get older, you can take some classes or something and do better in life.