[ginaaa22]

I just was told by a T that I have PTSD from being abuse emotionally and physically as a child. I don’t really understand how that’s possible but I’m wondering if other people on here have PTSD from the same issues?
So my mom, my abuser, doesn’t think she’s done anything wrong and has never apologized even though she knows I blame my mental health issues on her. I have bipolar, BPD and now PTSD. I doubt the bipolar thing but I know I have BPD and that is environmental. For people who were abused by their parents, do you have a relationship with them? I keep forgiving my mom and all of her stupid bullsh*t. She is a drug addict. She has serious issues. I have a lot of unresolved issues that I have to work through. My T wants to do EMDR and I think if I talk to my mom or have contact that it will be counterproductive to getting on my way to recovery. My fiancé has PTSD too but from being in Iraq. He deals with his a lot different than me though. I feel like my mom is toxic to me. She never does anything that helps me-like being there for me. Its all about her. Is it wrong of me to want nothing to do with her? I have to hear from other people “oh she’s your mom and you only have one mom…”

[nicoleflynn]

Your feelings aren't right or wrong, they simply are. Do what is right for...you.

[Hellion]

PTSD can result from any trauma, so it makes perfect sense you could develop PTSD from childhood abuse. Also it certainly does sound like your mom is not someone who is healthy for you to be around...so no it is not wrong at all if you want nothing to do with her, it would probably be healthy to have nothing more to do with her.

[ginaaa22]

Thats what I thought but then I get the occaisonal "your running away from your problems..."

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[Open Eyes]

No ginaaa22, you are not running away from your problems. Choosing to have no contact with a dysfunctional parent/home is not running away. You have had things happen to you that were wrong and have confused and hurt you. You need to distance and spend time with a therapist and together discover how you were hurt that was not your fault.

There are many people who have been hurt by how their parents were active addicts and alcoholics where they were more about getting high and their needs than properly nurturing their children. And all addicts and alcoholics deny they abused or hurt their children or spouses. It is an unfortunate part of the disease of addictions.

Another thing that you may find very helpful and supportive is going to an ACOA meeting near you, or an al anon meeting where others like yourself are seeking support because of the addict/alcoholic in their family environment and how that has badly affected them.

((Hugs))
OE

[Mysterious Flyer]

No, you are not running away from your problems. You are solving your problem by eliminating it. After all, you can't "solve" another person. And you do not only have one mom. You have no mom. It is her choice to abuse you, not the other way around.

[nummy]

Gina, I knew in third grade my fathers abuse affected me. Made my teacher think I avoided him because he was black. I saw it in his eyes, and instantly knew--instantly--"this is what you've done to me, dad."

But as a child I could not affect my life. As an adult I woukd have done different. To avoid abuse as an adult is, in my experience, avoiding the inadvertent abuse of a contemporary.

[Hellion]

Originally Posted by ginaaa22

Thats what I thought but then I get the occaisonal "your running away from your problems..."

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That is interesting since that can be a symptom of PTSD, problems feel too hard to deal with so one might try and run away from them...I've been there more than once have abused alcohol and other things in the past due to that reason. SO its weird someone would make that comment to imply a lack of PTSD when that can be a symptom of it.

Either way its not so much a conscious choice, just things being too painful and threatening to deal with so you don't see what else to do...at least I have experienced that. However getting away from abusers or people who are effecting your life negatively is not running away from problems that is actually addressing them.

[ginaaa22]

Its like a double edged sword..I have to deal with it to heal but it could turn out to make things worse then they already were..just sucks because I dont know which will happen

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