[Aracnae]

I would have just posted this on the depression forum, but I felt it fit more here. I got in an argument with my brother about a week ago over a post I made on Facebook. Basically, my mother, who was my abuser, kept making new profiles and sending me friend requests. I would block her, and she'd make another one. I made a post requesting that no one share any information about me with her, and explaining that she was a manipulative and may try to get to me through my friends. My brother flipped out and said that she never did anything to me, so I should just forgive her. I kind of lost my temper and posted in reply a litany of the things she did do to me. Suddenly, for the first time, everyone knew about my past of abuse. My brother minimized all of it and told me that she didn't do any of it on purpose and that I should just get over it. Then, as another person stepped in to say he was being immature and insensitive, he threatened them, saying that if he were there with him, he'd cut his throat.
So, I stopped talking to him, and I've been too depressed to post about this up until today. I'm still depressed. I know I need to shake it off, but it's been so hard. I don't want to do anything or see anyone.
Anyhow, sorry for the long post. I just needed to finally get it out there.

[Skeezyks]

Hello Aracnae: I'm sorry you've had this difficult experience! I've never been on Facebook. I presume there must be some good aspects to it. But all I seem to ever recall hearing about is bad stuff such as you mention here. I simply have no tolerance for this type of angry entanglement. I can certainly understand how it would have caused you to fall into depression. It can take time to bounce back from this kind of difficulty. Please be gentle with yourself & allow yourself time to heal...

(((hugs)))

[Out There]

[Open Eyes]

I am sorry you were so badly triggered, it's not unusual for a bout of feeling depressed to come after a trigger like that.

I have never used facebook myself, and I have heard bad things about it. Personally, I don't care to put myself out there like that and prefer my privacy. I understand why some people like to use it so they can do their show and tells.

It seems like there should be a better way to block someone from a friendship that doesn't result in the kind of situation you are describing.

I am sorry that your brother publically sided with your mother, it was none of his business who you want to invite as a friend and who you block.