[Alishia88]

I have recently moved abroad and after 2 weeks in a hotel-apartment, into a new place.

Here is the problem, I am not sure why, but I feel uncomfortable here and like I cannot relax.

I moved here in order to study so after a week of feeling like all my energy went into coping with the place and feeling like my studies really suffered from poor sleep and mood, went back to the hotel apartment where I felt better and could immediately relax.

I am back in the apartment now because it´s school holiday time anyway, but immediately felt unwell again.

A problem is: It is pretty noisy, you can hear the street in almost every room and even though it is not like really loud, I feel like it is constantly taking my attention towards the sound. Then there are airplanes flying really close to the house even in late hours (no night-flight forbid here), there are also constructions in and outside the house and generally you hear more of the neighbours here, like dogs bark etc.

The other thing is, and this actually quite beautiful, it has very large windows and it is on the 9th floor, so you get a lot of light and view of the city, but I also feel like it is taking my attention to what is going on there instead of feeling more calm and centered within me.

The place is actually very beautiful, so I feel stupid for complaining about it, yet I feel not calm inside so I have considered moving again. But I don´t know if I am being too sensitive about it and should give it more time or money to soundproof windows e.g., but not sure if I should invest anything in it, if I might really have to move anyway......???

My main focus here is my studies that are very important to me, so I want to be in a place where I can really focus on that, and I´m not sure if I will be able to or not.

Also, there is only 3 weeks school break so if I want to move, I need to do it soon, so I can spend my energy on school once it starts again.

Any ideas or advice/experience would be largely appreciated!

Thank you so much

[MtnTime2896]

I don't change easily. Personally speaking, whenever I'm in a new place, I suffer greatly from hypervigilance for the first few months there. Sometimes, it doesn't go away. To treat PTSD effectively, you need to feel safe, if you don't then it's extremely counter productive. I suggest giving more time but if it's too much of a cost to your personal well-being, go back to where you feel safe. I won't tell you to leave or stay because I don't know your mind as well as you do, but I will say that following your gut and doing what's best for yourself can get twisted with people like us. After all, our gut often tells us that we need to be in fight or flight constantly in order to stay alive, though there is not threat. At the same time, there are times when we just really know what's best for us and sometimes what's best for us is allowing ourselves a break; that means for you, going somewhere you feel safe.

Yeah, could I be more vague and answer a question more like a politician? Sorry, I made an attempt.

[Alishia88]

Thank you Soleigheas, your answer has helped a little

Originally Posted by Só leigheas

I don't change easily. Personally speaking, whenever I'm in a new place, I suffer greatly from hypervigilance for the first few months there. Sometimes, it doesn't go away. To treat PTSD effectively, you need to feel safe, if you don't then it's extremely counter productive. I suggest giving more time but if it's too much of a cost to your personal well-being, go back to where you feel safe. I won't tell you to leave or stay because I don't know your mind as well as you do, but I will say that following your gut and doing what's best for yourself can get twisted with people like us. After all, our gut often tells us that we need to be in fight or flight constantly in order to stay alive, though there is not threat. At the same time, there are times when we just really know what's best for us and sometimes what's best for us is allowing ourselves a break; that means for you, going somewhere you feel safe.

Yeah, could I be more vague and answer a question more like a politician? Sorry, I made an attempt.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Is it possible that the new place has mold? Mold can really zap you! We had black mold under our tub and after it cleared out, I felt a bit better.