[Jennifer1084]

When is a good time to try a relationship again after having something traumatic happen from the last relationship? I am just wondering because I am wondering if I entered this relationship too soon. It was brought to my attention that maybe I am trying to prove to myself that I am actually doing ok now. When in all actuality I am not doing ok inside and I was very traumatized and I am still hurting. So am I just doing this to play games with myself? The other thing that my T brought up is, am I in this relationship as a way of self-abuse? I really couldn't tell her and I can't tell you these answers. I don't know really what to say or anything really. I will be honest, I am really hoping that I will get some advice on this, I mean I know I am the only person that really knows the answer and I know that I am the one who actually can do anything about any of it. But it is just good to know that others will actually take the time to respond and show some kind of supoort and empathy for one another. I believe that may be a reason many people come here even, it's why I come here, to get supported. I know I need to do it alot more myself as well and I am going to try.

Jennifer

[frogysgirl]

I DO understand. I felt that I should be "punished" for "letting" myself get attacked - the relationships that immeadialy follwed were some of my worst! It seems you have the answer already, and I know how much courage and strength it's going to take to "do the right thing" - whatever that may be for you. When to get involved again - only you can answer that for yourself. I hope this helps, even a lillte. I look forward to finding out what you decide. Feel free to PM about it if you don't want it posted.