Accepting there will be no consequences....

I'm dealing with accepting that my violent abusers will suffer no consequences for what they did to me. It's really hard. They are sitting pretty with well-paid jobs and prestigious titles while, because of them, I'm now disabled with complex PTSD and am living in a community for people with mental illness and can only handle a part-time, minimum wage job (although I do like the job). It's hard enough to deal with what they did to me, but I also have to deal with the fact that they got away with it--and what they did was abuse at the criminal level, felony level.

Most abusers get away with it, even criminal ones, because it can be so hard to prove what they did. How have others here dealt with this reality. I'm really struggling right now.

Thanks, Ceara

it's difficult to accept

(((((hugs)))))

in reality, my sister will probably grow up suffering the same sort of abuse I went through (she's 18 now, and very vunnerable all ready)

my family (the abusers), have it all figured out

nice house in another country, lovely expensive clothes and expensive furniture, any of them can get anything they want without any conciquence and it sucks

on the plus side, I don't think at my mother's age she'll have anymore kids

horrible thing to say- but she can't even look after the ones she's got

That must be so painful to know your sister is suffering like you did. Are you able to support her through it all?

My sister was abused by my parents, too, but she has whitewashed it all in her mind and keeps my folks on a pedestal. She's never held them accountable for anything.

sadly their is not much I can do to support her.

for starters, her and my mother now live in another country (tunesia), and also, my sister is heavily part of the abuse I am still getting from my mother, and her, and all the rest of them.

I feel I can't support someone through something, when I myself am getting threats by them every single day

my family are toxic, and I think they know that at no point do I plan to see them again.

ever

You GO! I'll never see my mom again, either.

I too, have to accept that my abusers will never pay for their crimes (felonies). I know there's nothing I can do, so I look at it this way. I will let it go because if I don't, they win by controlling me even when they're gone from my life.

Getting them out of your life is easy compared to getting them out of your head.

WW

I believe abusers face consequences after death. I don't know if you are religious at all but thinking this has helped me.

It doesn't seem fair that they suffer no consequences. But I firmly believe they will pay for it in some way be after death or some kind of karma consequences.

((((((Cera1010)))))))

It is so hard to cope with they will not see justice for what they have done

I have learned to cope with that while my abuser may not pay for their crime they pay for it in other ways, they will always be a selfish person that while they may have a. Nice home and nice things will never be able to connect and care for someone in a truly sincere way. They will never understand true empathy, they will never know what it is like to unconditionally love someone

I may struggle to hold down a full time job, I may struggle to do basic things, I may always have a horrible yo yo ride with my mental health but at least I can love unconditionally, I can truly form deep connections with others, I know how to nurture and care for others, I know I will never ever hurt someone the way they hurt me and I will always do my best to treat others with love and understanding and to be kind even to strangers, because that is something my abuser will never be capable of.

To me the bottom line is, there is no rhyme or reason to any of it. Life is not fair, I don't see how the afterlife should be. I personally, am looking forward to going back to being stardust.

Thanks to all of you for your comments. You have definitely given me some thoughts to mull over and help me let go.

I've had to just "let go" for my own sanity and to keep myself safe.

I, too, believe abusers will pay a price at some point, in some way. The ways of the Universe aren't mine to dictate as to when or how.

I am truly sorry for all we've each had to endure. I hope we can each find a path to healing.


WC