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Feb 12, 2018, 12:06 PM
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Have any of you started new traditions on a trauma anniversary,and has it helped?
I was thinking of *trying* to turn an upcoming one into something new,something different instead of dreading that day. |
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Feb 13, 2018, 08:57 AM
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I have an anniversary this week.I think I am going to plan things that I will do every year on that day.
Maybe go out for dinner.Go shopping.Anything besides sitting home thinking.I'm sure it's not going to take any of the memories away.It probably won't even take any symptoms away either.But if I am going to feel like **** that day,I might as well feel like **** while doing things I enjoy. |
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Feb 13, 2018, 09:00 AM
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That’s a great idea. Treat yourself lovingly and celebrate a new day.
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Feb 13, 2018, 09:49 AM
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i bought a cake to take to work to celebrate my day - i had survived another year - i win! they didnt know why but it made it a better day because others were happy
another year i went out for the day to my favourite place the aquarium and sat and watched the sharks and dugongs and other fish
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Feb 13, 2018, 03:52 PM
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That's a great idea. Really take care of myself on those days. I have one the end of this month, so maybe I'll plan something.
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#6
Feb 15, 2018, 02:38 PM
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You might consider also planning a moment to slow down and do allow the thoughts to come. Distracting yourself and pushing away the thoughts - repressing them - can be very difficult. And make it worse later on.
It's like microwaving a Tupperware canister with food.. with the lid on tight, it will explode and you'll have to clean up the microwave. Lid on loose, or stopping a few times during the heating to take it off and put it back on, and you'll have warm food and no clean up. Maybe go to the park and feed the ducks, 1 slice of bread only so you don't stay with your thoughts too long? Massage, yoga, relaxation exercise? Or just buy and eat a cake as a reminder that you've survived. It's just that it sounds like a lot of running around and stimulation what you've planned. Take a moment to acknowledge that yes, it did happen. 'Trying to forget' might make things wrong in the longer term. I wish you well. 
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