do you ever tell people they are triggering you.

it may seem a strange question, but a valid one- do you tell people don't talk about that, it triggers me, or do you just don't tell them?

I was put in this situation today actually.

someone I was with started talking about something that happened to someone else, and that thing that happened to someone else, also happens to be something that triggered me a few months back (their were other reasons as well, but that was the main one)

anyway I went all quiet and she asked me if I was okay and I'm like yes of course, and she's like.. I hope I didn't trigger you, and I'm like no... no, of course not- you're fine

difficult sometimes as I honestly feel I need to tell them

what do you do

[SorryShaped]

It depends how much I trust and value this person

[12AM]

Originally Posted by SorryShaped

It depends how much I trust and value this person

Same for me. I only tell people that are close to me and know about me. If it’s just some random acquaintances or people who barely know me, I’d just excuse myself for a while to calm down.

I tell people when I am triggered. I simply say that I cant discuss a certain thing because it upsets me. Most people are understanding.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

do you ever tell people they are triggering you.

it may seem a strange question, but a valid one- do you tell people don't talk about that, it triggers me, or do you just don't tell them?

I was put in this situation today actually.

someone I was with started talking about something that happened to someone else, and that thing that happened to someone else, also happens to be something that triggered me a few months back (their were other reasons as well, but that was the main one)

anyway I went all quiet and she asked me if I was okay and I'm like yes of course, and she's like.. I hope I didn't trigger you, and I'm like no... no, of course not- you're fine

difficult sometimes as I honestly feel I need to tell them

what do you do

yes I do you can find more on my answer here in your other thread on the same question....
do you ever tell people they are triggering you?

[Fuzzybear]

I wouldn’t say to anyone ... “you trigger me” since I’m a nice bear

But I do try to communicate honestly with my friends

[MtnTime2896]

I don't think I've ever told anyone that. I'm triggered a lot by many things people say, but I've always said nothing. It doesn't matter how close I am with them, I keep my mouth shut. I was trained "well" and am currently trying to break the habit.

[88Butterfly88]

Originally Posted by SorryShaped

It depends how much I trust and value this person

Agreed. I have a good relationship with my parents so I'd tell them and I'd certainly let my therapist know. Other people I would be less likely to tell, some people don't even know I have PTSD.

[quietincrowd]

I have told my partner I need a break and to stop. I have a few close friends I may say that too but there are very few in my small circle I trust.

I do regularly say, "excuse me" and walk away when something is going to trigger me. I just step away, find my safe space, act like I need to go to the restroom, cough and get a drink, whatever. You can be polite without giving them a reason you stepped out of a situation that would not be healthy for you.

Good Luck and remember it is always appropriate to care for yourself!

[QueenCopper]

No, I am a big chicken. Always afraid of what someone will think or say to me. So many times I wish I could say something but I never do.