[inkblot]

I just read a news article on the web about two sisters (age 21 and 19, I think it said) who came forward after telling a friend who alerted authorities that they had been cruelly abused since about age 5. The father got nearly the maximum sentence, but plead guilty saving himself 10 years. He still won't likely ever get out of prison, though, since he got 50 years. I'm almost not sure what I feel. I feel sad, emotional, I don't know exactly. Maybe it wasn't such a good idea to read the article. I don't want this to be on my mind all day now. I've been emotional enough lately.

[wisewoman]

Inky, I don't know if what I am going to say is going to be helpful to how your feeling. I certainly don't want it to be more upsetting. I am very happy that these young woman got the validation about their abuse that they so deserved. That validation even has a face, their father's behind bars. I know a family, knew them for many many years. Had the Dad come do work in my house. A few months after the work was done he still didn't return a storm he broke and I called his home. His oldest girl answered and told me that she and her two sisters had been sexually abused since infancy. Dad had even admitted to performing oral sex on them when they were infants. He got 18 months in jail. That is all. The oldest was 19 when she told and the other two were minors. 18 months and he was released and married a young woman with M.S. because he is a classic pedophile so if he couldn't have girls he would have this 70 pound woman who looks like a child and needs total care. I knew these girls for years and I never saw the signs. I never saw the signs in him. His wife never knew. So when I read your story I am happy that the creep is locked up where no one else will ever be sexually abused by him. Hope this helps, hope at least it doesn't hurt more.

[SweetCrusader]

Inky, I don't understand which part of it is upsetting you. I don't mean to say that I can't understand WHY it's upsetting. I definitely can understand being upset by this. I just don't understand what your personal reaction specifically is. Are you triggered by what happened to the girls? Or ambivalent about the sentence on the dad? ???

(((hugs)))) Either way, I hope you can work it out and feel better.

Angela

[inkblot]

It's about what happened to the girls. I've been there so many times myself. It's kind of sad in a way, but it could feel very good for someone you love to be punished.

[SweetCrusader]

Ok, I thought that's what it was.

Yeah sometimes it does seem like it would be nice to seem them get their "just desserts," doesn't it? But then again, there is that whole ambivalence that comes into play because of the fact that you love them (as much as you hate that you do, sometimes). At least that's how it is for me.

Sorry you were triggered. I know it sucks ((((hugs))))

Angela