[beadlady29-old]

seems as if are beating head up against the wall because no matter no matter what we try nothing seems to make these stupid new memories that flooded our brain last nite go away not the visual tech. we are learning, not music, not beads, not boo, not go outside, not journal or draw and sleep is not EVEn an option. concentrations is worse then ever arrrrrggghhhhhhh!!
dunno if this is rite place to be posting this or not.......hope is ok
anyway, does anyone got any creative ideas?

beadlady

[Tired12]

(((((((bead))))))))))

You will get there it's just tough right now, try to allow yourself time to process one at a time. Try and be kind to yourself. It sounds like your brain is a little overloaded. One step at a time.

[Typo]

(((((((((((((Bead))))))))))

Please be gentle to you it is alot to handle,
You are not alone, we are always here for you

Love
Silver and Pip

[bchlyn]

((((((breadlady))))))

[Sannah]

Hi Bead, so usually you distract yourself when new memories come? Does this usually work? Do you work through the memories eventually then?

[(JD)]

Distraction does work. But sometimes you need to just sit with the memories for a bit. You don't have to work on them, if you aren't up to it. In fact, I would suggest not working on memories like these, but save therapy work for the therapy session.


Give any memory a few moments or minutes of direct attention, and then tell yourself, ok, back on the shelf I have other things to do. That validates the memory but doesn't allow it to take over your life. Everytime it comes back to the forefront of your thinking, tell yourself, no, I already gave you time today, go back to the shelf (or wherever you put them.)
Find a task that requires full focus...such as a computer game you enjoy. I say enjoy because you will be more motivated to tell yourself to focus so you can win it.
Some people do yard work which they enjoy, others play piano etc. But the thought-stopping is key to any diversion working because the memory will try to stay on your thoughts.
This is a part of healing, the brain trying to refile those memories that never were filed correctly due to trauma.

[Justgiving]

Just want to give you a hug.

(((((((((((beadlady)))))))))))

[beadlady29-old]

(((((((((((Tired))))))))))))) (((((((((((((Silver, Pip))))))))))))))))

thank you both fro your support for bead.ye all always here for bead. yes, our brain seems to be overladed quite offen these days naybe why normal stuff that usually works aint' working.little tiny steps alwasy but need to work harder on stay in teh present.

many saef hugs....
bead

[beadlady29-old]

well sannah, yes and no. distractions is bead's usual method of copign wiht everythign difficult........dunno how well this wokrs for process new memories as thhese aer soem of the first really 'new'ones bead knows about.......
bead is kinda new to this hole therapy/did thing almost 2 years now but for a long tiem was jsut onec every 2 (sometimes almost 3) weeks. got new T now has moer time see once a week hoepign that will help.........
apparently the distraction game aint working so good hear but dotn really know what else to try ...is all bead knows how to do
suggestions welcome......and thank you much

bead

[beadlady29-old]

Wow Sky.......that seemed to haev wokred.......bead let herself look at it but not feel put them in the cabinet for quite a while adn when they come out her put back in..........earleir today was fainlly able to taek out of cabinet adn wriet about very breifly in journal for T.then we put bakc into teh cabinet even manage to get a couple constructive tasks accomplieshed today..
bead says tahnk you muhc.
at first did not liek idea of sittign wiht this (bad words) but we did try cuz nothing else was workign adn we survived adn is somehow gooder now.

sends Sky a smile

bead

[beadlady29-old]

((((((((((((((((((Justgiving))))))))))))))))))))))))))

bead tell u thank u so much for the hug!!!!!!!!!!!
her really neds rite now
we sends a saef hug back to you

take care

bead

[Sannah]

Bead, like Sky said, when you are ready, working through the memories with your therapist might be what is needed. Talk to your therapist about this?