I have a permanent order against someone for several years
Recently a counselor keeps telling me to sue abuser
I don't think so-he has connections,old with terminal cancer
I don't want to subject myself to his lawyer anymore
He has been arrested for it and has crimnal history
I cannot afford it- I am unemployed
WIth his illness and the fact that I have not recently called police
I cannot understand why the counselor persisits
It is causing me to stay up
Please tell me what you think

[phoenix7]

HI sunshineinthecity,

This is a question you should ask your counciller - ask them what they think you will gain from doing this and let them know that you dont want to do it if thats what you decide -and that you want to move on - if they can't give you a reason that you can accept for this course of action and then wont let it go - it may be time to find another counciller -

[michele#3]

Originally Posted by sunshineinthecity

I have a permanent order against someone for several years
Recently a counselor keeps telling me to sue abuser
I don't think so-he has connections,old with terminal cancer
I don't want to subject myself to his lawyer anymore
He has been arrested for it and has crimnal history
I cannot afford it- I am unemployed
WIth his illness and the fact that I have not recently called police
I cannot understand why the counselor persisits
It is causing me to stay up
Please tell me what you think

The reasons you gave for not suing your abuser make sense to me. I wouldn't sue either if I was in your shoes.
I do think you should ask your therapist why they feel that you should sue your abuser. If their reasons arn't good enough for you then maybe you should consider another therapist.