[nirmal]

This confirmed to me what I have always known: I am a fruitcake! It also
points out to me that I need to work on phobias and obsesive-compulsion.
Any ideas? nirmal

[1dark1]

Originally Posted by nirmal

This confirmed to me what I have always known: I am a fruitcake! It also
points out to me that I need to work on phobias and obsesive-compulsion.
Any ideas? nirmal

phobias face them i found its worked a bit for me just hit it head on. i just got 169 on my test lol not far off u. and ur not a fruitcake....what does that make me lol

[BadKat]

Originally Posted by nirmal

This confirmed to me what I have always known: I am a fruitcake! It also
points out to me that I need to work on phobias and obsesive-compulsion.
Any ideas? nirmal

Hey Man, I dunno...found this website after having a deja vu nite between my husband, his momma (whom lives next door) and her husband of 7 yrs. To me standing 4 my family and my convictions is a good thing but, it seems that my husband prefers i keep peace even if it means compromising...I married him after an abusive controlling husband.., he always implied he wanted to see me strong and stand but time and again its proved to be with the condition that excludes his mommy! I love him more than life and even have nightmares abt losing him. If i try to talk 2 him he threatens to throw me out which i can't bare the thot...He always defends his mommy but, i am defending him in every instance...he doesn't see and I'm ALWAYS wrong. I don't know what 2 do but swallow my convictions and be subservant 2 her and her husband (which she married out of loyalities 2 her sister whom has passed away years ago, as he was her fiance). He ALWAYS appeases his mom and disregards me even though, i only stand 2 defend him and our children's honor. Shud i just shut up & take it? I always thot he wanted me strong?!! I can't lose him...what do i do...i have no options...

[nirmal]

Originally Posted by 1dark1

phobias face them i found its worked a bit for me just hit it head on. i just got 169 on my test lol not far off u. and ur not a fruitcake....what does that make me lol

Hello and thank you for your reply. I was just joking(but close to the truth too)And your remark about what that makes youThat
made me laugh!

love and laughter,
nirmal

[nirmal]

Originally Posted by BadKat

Hey Man, I dunno...found this website after having a deja vu nite between my husband, his momma (whom lives next door) and her husband of 7 yrs. To me standing 4 my family and my convictions is a good thing but, it seems that my husband prefers i keep peace even if it means compromising...I married him after an abusive controlling husband.., he always implied he wanted to see me strong and stand but time and again its proved to be with the condition that excludes his mommy! I love him more than life and even have nightmares abt losing him. If i try to talk 2 him he threatens to throw me out which i can't bare the thot...He always defends his mommy but, i am defending him in every instance...he doesn't see and I'm ALWAYS wrong. I don't know what 2 do but swallow my convictions and be subservant 2 her and her husband (which she married out of loyalities 2 her sister whom has passed away years ago, as he was her fiance). He ALWAYS appeases his mom and disregards me even though, i only stand 2 defend him and our children's honor. Shud i just shut up & take it? I always thot he wanted me strong?!! I can't lose him...what do i do...i have no options...

Hey there,

From what you write, it sounds like you are doing all the right things. In
every marriage some compromise is necessary. But when you start to
feel bad,it´s too much and changes are necessary. Your husband appears
both imature(his mommie!) and abusive to you. Saying stuff like he´ll throw
you out is totally unacceptable. Stand up for yourself and definitely do not
let him and his Mommie put you down. How one can still love somebody
after such abuse is beyond me. If all this doesn´t stop, I´d start packing my bags.

love and light,
nirmal