and then this happens....

so I see my therapist today and before we start the session she informs that in a couple of weeks there is gonna be a change I need to be aware of....

I'm thinking either, she's cutting back hours, moving, or worse she's giving me the 3 more sessions and I'm thru with your pathetic a%$...

then she throws the bomb in my lap.....

I noticed one of the therapists name's had been removed from the main door and the office across from my therapist has been emptied....

so a new therapist is moving in.........

and the winner is!

you guessed it

my old therapist who I am still obsessed with and who dumped me because of my obsessive and awkward sexual demeanor

so before I drop my jaw, my new therapist explains that she told my old T that I was now a client of hers and there could be a possible conflict, but apparently my old T is ok with it and even expressed her "joy" that I was seeing a new therapist

lord help me

crapsticks, how on earth did you work through that one? my immediate response would probably be anger (old T invading my new space), but then i've only had bitter endings with old Ts - no one i've been obsessed about.

so how are *you* feeling about it, brian? is this going to be a big deal, or do you think you'll adjust to it ok just given a bit of time?

That sucks! How likely is it that you will cross paths with her? Also with her acrossed the hall from your new T it is likely that cross chatter will occur. Brian I'm sorry for you.

I'd be pissed that your t brok confidentuality and told your former t you were her client. i agree with chaotic - cross talk will more than likely occur =(

I agree with Kiya. Your T should not have revealed you were her client. She should have told you first that old T was moving in and together you and she could decide what to do. As it is, I would go over boundaries with my T and establish that there will be no cross talk without a signed release form.

I'm sorry this is happening, Brian. How bad would it be if you saw your old T in the hall or waiting room? Maybe you can schedule your appts on a day she doesn't work?

well my old T only worked Mon-Wed and I usually schedule my appointments on Thursday or Friday

my new T says she will definitely make sure that we schedule sessions where old T is not present

Your current therapist made a HUGE boo boo. Breaking confidentiality is not good. Talking to you about the old T moving into the new office was just fine. Telling the old therapist that you are being seen at the new office...not good. Not without your permission! I agree with the other posters, no cross talk without a signed release form.

Scheduling on different days looks like it will work for you. I hope it does.

bri, sounds like you're working through this mess but i'd also ask your new t what gave her the right to break your confidentiality. that's a no-no!

I assume since old T "referred me" to new T and old T called new T before I saw new T to update her on me...then it is ok for new T to tell old T im her client because old T knew I was going to see new T....

did that make any sense?

If you hadn't given her permission to talk about you she's committed a very big ethical violation. Do you think you can keep seeing her in light of this?

But I thought you'd posted way back that current and past T's were communicating about you with your consent--consent being the operative word.

Either way, it's going to be a very stressful issue with the move as you've outlined it. I don’t know how I could deal with it.

I will channel Bruce Lee and "be like water and flow" thru every session

Brian - you're full of awesome. i love your weekly updates and how you always, absolutely always manage to see humour in your situation.

i'm relieved you will be in the clinic on different days from old-T. that would definitely help.

as for the break in confidentiality - i guess it's up to you how you see it. personally, i wouldn't be upset if my pdoc told my old-T that i was still seeing him and that i'd have a major problem with old-T joining the clinic i was at. but then, maybe pdoc would have a legal obligation to tell, because some serious harm might come of old-T if i were to ever see him again .

but seriously, if you're ok with it then it's ok . if you're not ok with it, then that's ok also, and it would be a good idea to bring it up with your T.

i guess the important thing to clarify moving on would be whether your Ts continue to speak to each other about you. e.g., my pdoc has group supervision meetings once a month, and has spoken about my case to some of his colleagues. i am ok with this, but i wouldn't be ok if my old-T was part of that group. so maybe that is important to bring up?

like, maybe it is ok that old-T knows you're at the same clinic, but it might not be ok for her to be briefed about further details? i'm just throwing it out there - it's ultimately up to you about what you're comfortable with.

honestly I couldnt give a hoot who talks to who...

old T and new T are friends and they have breakfast and luncheons together all the time and new T has told me many times they do not talk about clients

now if I happen to accidentally drag my truck key across old T's brand new Volvo while entering the clinic..................

you are better than me...i'd so be channeling bruce lee and doing some "wax on, wax off" while standing on one leg like a grasshopper stuff...oh wait, my bad, got my martial arts movies mixed up (karate kid, kung fu).

i think as long as your current t keeps things in perspective and keeps your days straight and and reminds herself of boundaries and such then you'll be okay...because rememeber..if not she's got one mighty martial arts kind of guy to deal with!

oh brian, dont just key the volvo....



steal it!

i would just die! im glad you're laughing about it.