[StillSearching11]

At my last appointment, my therapist kept telling me to think of happy times in my life and force myself to stop worrying about everything that is wrong in my life all of the time. I just kept saying I disagreed that all I needed to do was think positive and turn my brain off as soon as I start to worry, and he just kind of sat there and went, "hmmm" like he was dumbfounded that his "Think positive! No worrying!" CBT mantra hadn't already cured my depression.

I felt bad because I felt like I was just giving him a hard time, and I felt like I should just leave because all I was doing was making his job difficult. I didn't know how to put how I felt into words, so I blurted out, "I don't even know why I'm here." He seemed kind of taken aback and told me not to come anymore and waste anymore of my money if I didn't feel like it was helpful. I wish I were better with words so I could have better explained that I wasn't trying to insult him or his therapy style. I was more trying to express that I felt I should just leave because all I was doing was being an annoying, difficult patient, and I hate feeling like I'm burdening people.

[Little Lulu]

Maybe you have just been given a 'gift' of sorts by this therapist. I don't think what you said was rude ... just honest. I think he could have had a more kind, appropriate response. My hope is you will try another therapist and/or style of therapy that feels like a better fit for you. I have had a lot of recovery and positive thinking was the RESULT of the work I did but 'just trying to think positive' never worked for me either.

[PeeJay]

This therapist sounds like he has no clue. If positive thinking alone would fix it, you wouldn't be there.

You were not rude. I think your thought was prompted by his not attuning to you. I hope you find a better therapist!!

[HockingPastryChef]

I feel it was wrong on his part for saying those words if that was how he said them. He knows already that people in your spot have trouble with their emotions in the first place. Plus, it was not rude on your part for telling him that. It wasn't nasty, it was telling him that you need another way of thinking to help you.

If you feel that they will not help then don't go back, they will have to let go if you truly bothered them anyways. If he doesn't let go then he truly isn't a "happy, positive" therapist. Or you can go back and say how you do feel; which is what you had told us. There was for certain a misunderstanding in the conversation between you two.

Therapists need to accept the fact that their patients are asking for help and of course they have so many sufferings; which there are a lot of negative feelings. Words will not come out as clearly and come out more critical from a person with a lot of pain.

I would also recommend looking into yoga and meditation classes that are local.