Unethical therapist?

I know this is an old thread but.....

GRRRRRRRR

I finally decided to seek another therapist. I found one with a good reputation that was experienced.......

I told her my problems including the ones with the former Ts and......

SHE ALREADY KNEW HOW THE STORY ENDED. I HAD NEVER TOLD ANYONE OUTSIDE OF A PRIVILEGED SETTING EXCEPT ON HERE.

So..... not only did they make me miserable..... apparently they have been gossiping about me to their colleagues...... even if they haven't been using my name.

Nothing like screwing up then salting the ground behind them.

I don't think I'll ever be able to get away from THEIR mistake as long as I'm in school here.

and the T I wanted has refused to see me.

This one thinks the others acted unethically too btw.

I should report them....... or maybe I should just give up......

(((((((((((((((((figuring it out))))))))))))))))

I am so sorry that happened with the new T... do you think she guessed where the story was going, rather than hearing it from someone else??

Don't give up. Maybe the T who can't work with you (did she say why?) could give you a referral. You deserve to find someone who can help you through this.

Many to you.

No, the result was very specific. She said that at least they helped me with 2 of the main issues I have been trying to address in therapy using the exact words that I used to describe it. It is not an intuitive answer..... trust me.

She says that she used to be like the inexperienced therapist that started this whole thing; meaning she identifies with her, not me. She suggested I get a male therapist and gave me a referral.

Male therapists are completely unacceptable to me. My emotional side completely shuts off around them. We can discuss my problems for hours and nothing is accomplished. When I leave the session I feel exactly the same as when I came in.

Lots of good ideas being tossed around in this thread but I like sunrise's perspective lots.

Not sure if your student therapist was unethical. Sounds like incompetence though. When my son was very young he saw a student psychiatrist and then continued with him after he was a licensed doc. Too long a story to detail here but I was majorly displeased with him and with good reason and had the pleasure to fire him.

I wish you could have had the closure to be the one to fire your sucky therapist.

I think I'm just going to give up......

Life sucks

Don't give up. But it is okay to make the decision that you don't want to waste another minute being upset about it. You have to choose your fights. If something is very important you fight tooth and nail. Some other things are not worth the mental stress to put your energy into when it is less important to you. You aren't giving up if you choose to put that problem behind you and move on.

Would your complaint to your student therapist's supervisor result in anything productive toward making positive change in the student's behaviors? Maybe. Maybe not. Most likely though if a student is having problems functioning with one client it likely is apparent with other clients too. So quite possibly the supervisor knows there is a problem already.

I think I give up on therapy. The issue will follow me around for as long as I look for a therapist. They will always ask about previous therapists. At that point I either lie or tell a story that will apparently scare off therapists. Neither of these seems particularly helpful.


I don't really care about the student anymore. I am angry at the negative consequences this is having on my life today. They continue to be an impediment to me and I'm not even in contact with them and haven't been for some time.

I'm sick of trying. I'm sick of my life. I'm sick of the people whom are supposed to help me letting me down. I am especially sick of living with the consequences of others mistakes.

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okay, I'm done feeling sorry for myself now. Oh well.

Okay.... well, I have a call in to the clinic director for the second time. Maybe I won't chicken out this time when she tries to call back.

I just wish I knew what to do here.

I feel like I'm stuck in a no win situation.



Thanks for the advice everyone. This all just seems so hopeless and surreal.

Dear Figuring this Out,

My first experience with therapy was a disaster and I felt the T acting out of his own need to use a certain therapy to treat my problem caused me undo anxiety and increased my lack of self esteem and sense of failure.
I had come from a lifetime of verbal emotional abuse and was trying to deal with it. The type of therapy he was using was not working for me and I continually expressed that I was having a hard time with the therapy and that it wasn't working for me. There was a set procedure I was to do at home. After a year he one session decided that he had had a enough of me and basically said I was lying about doing the therapy and said that if I didn't do what his assignment was and bring it in he knew I was lying. Well I never went back and found a new T (who is wonderful!). When I cancelled my appointments the association ask why and had me talk to his supervisor and I told her what had happened. They had no idea about what type of therapy he used (on all his clients). They said they would look in to it and talk to the director and get back to me. Well of course I never heard anything and he is still working there. I did send him a ltter telling him my thoughts and why I terminated. Yes I am still angry and I am still working on the trust issue which I had when I started and sometimes I wonder if he really cares. Probably not because according to him it doesn't matter what happens to you or what people say you just do his little worksheet and move on knowing you are okay.
What a creep! My T supports me and validated my feelings which has helped. My T did say he was way out of line and that it is sad that unethical T's are allowed to continue to practice.
Hang in there. Please try to find a T that will help you through this. It can be devastating and it is not fair to you. You have a right to be heard, even if they don't agree with you.

Please Please DON'T give up! You have just as much need as anyone else to be helped and cared for. We will be looking out for you here so do come back and share with us ~ anything you feel you want to talk about, even if it's a rant or vent ~ we'll understand because some of us would have been there too. I send you big HUGS and many LOVES.

MKAC, this thread is from 2009.

I don't think that's MKAC, but the avatar threw me, too!

Oh shoot. The avatar made me think it was. That's what I get for not actually reading the name.

Figuring It Out, I had a difficult time unraveling my harmful therapy, which I tried to describe in my blog link below the post.

I highly recommend TELL: Therapy Exploitation Link Line
which has resources on its webpage and will connect with you if you email them. They also might point you to resources should you choose to file a complaint.

Here's a UK site:Clients

50 Warning Signs of Questionable Therapy and Counseling

This is for initial poster on why therapy can turn harmful. ***TRIGGER WARNING IF YOU'RE HAPPY IN THERAPY*** DON'T READ IT!

Reasons To Be Therapy-Free (Part 1) | TryTherapyFree

Unethical therapy is a mind scramble for many reasons, which I tried to explore. It's a process, but I've come to believe there's paradoxical benefit from surviving it.

Whoops, didn't realize this was an old thread. (Sheepish.)