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My kids and I are very close - since I homeschool, we spend a LOT of time together - and I want them to know that we ALL have lots of feelings - happy, excited, anxious, sad, whatever - and that it is OKAY. I was raised having to act happy all the time, no matter what...I don't want to do that to my kids. And I don't want them to EVER feel responsible for my moods. So, if I am sad, I know that they know something is "off". I don't want them to have to guess, and wonder, and worry that it has something to do with them. So I'll say something like "I feel kind of sad right now, but it doesn't have ANYTHING to do with you guys. It's just some grown up stuff". That's all they need to know. I'm sad, and it's not caused by them. And sometimes, I will ask them for a hug, and they will give it to me, and I think we ALL feel better - I feel better because I got a hug ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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I like that you do get ask for a hug after making it cleat that it is "grown up stuff" that you may be upset/sad about. I like that. I will use that. It is very truthful. And would make my kids feel better. The times I have I was very touched by the way they seemed to enjoy being able to help me in that way. They smile and hug me real tight and ask me if I feel better now.....even my teenagers. They can really amaze me, too. After posting about this, I really DO feel so much better about going to my kids for hugs and a little bit of comfort without burdening their minds that anything is their fault or disclosing too much. Im sorry, Sunny, I didnt mean to hijack your thread! ![]() ![]() |
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