[Melbadaze]

Recently when I put myself back in a dysfunctional situation, I was emailing with T and something she said made me stop and think, she said the fact that we, me and her were emailing back and forth showed me that there were other options for me to reach out for help. That it wasn't so much what the words were between us at that point, it was the fact that I left what I thought was helpful for me and turned to her, a different way. I felt like until that point I'd been walking into walls and suddenly someone said, look heres the door. I honestly didn't think to look to do what I've always done differently. Normally I'd continue and continue with the old way untl it broke me, this time something different occured to me and T pointing out to me whilst I was doing, ie, stopping the dysfunctional pattern and reaching out to her instead.

Knowing that it doesn't aways have to be about the content, it can be as simple as fact shes there and I am there and we're doing something/anything together really unblocked a huge block in my head. Perfection in therapy isnt a must. Struggling together in the dark is as helpful.

[darkrunner]

Your T is so insightful! I'm glad she helped you have that light bulb moment. It is good to be able to realize the progress while it is happening sometimes.....helps with the feelings of frustration maybe.
I really like what you said here:

Perfection in therapy isnt a must. Struggling together in the dark is as helpful.

Very eloquent, and so true.

[skeksi]

I felt like until that point I'd been walking into walls and suddenly someone said, look heres the door.

This is such a great way of describing it! My T has said the same thing as yours, that it's about expressing myself and reaching out much more then the content of what I say. I guess that fits, because what I remember most about sessions is how T makes me feel, more than what he says.