my old T

I don't know what to do about my old T. I miss her so much. She left me a message to call her. I'm afraid to call her because I have moved on a little bit and i'm scared it will make me feel really hard feelings again. I wanna talk to her cos i miss her so much, but i don't want the bad feelings to be too strong again.and i don't want to find it hard to cope. Help!

Sounds like you need closure - I'd recommend calling her. Your new T can help you process those feelings.

Just a random idea: may or may not work for you.

Email her, or call her sometime when you know she won't be around so you can just leave a message.

Tell her that the whole thing still feels too raw for you, and you need some time first. Tell her that you'll come in to see her in a few months, and that you'll call and make an appointment then.

This is what I do, and it works for me because I still know that I haven't lost my T, which feels soothing. But also, taking some time lets me regain some personal equilibrium before I need to upset myself again.

-Far

I called her and talked to her and i'm I miss her so much and feel love of a kind for her that I know is not romantic but is love for her in a different way.

I'm going out christmas shopping today with some friends then seeing family tonight for one of the first during this month and January.

I get to see pdoc tomorrow. See if I make it until then without having a stress breakdown.

pdoc is sick. So no appointment. really needing to talk about some things. also a bit mad with pdoc. don't know what to do. Have to wait another week.

I'm sorry, Crystal. I know that awful feeling when a T or pdoc cancels. Yukky! You can talk about stuff here if you want. You know it's okay to share whatever you're comfortable with.

I understand about your old T and love for her. I'm glad you called her. I started the "Issues in Termination of Therapy" group because I know how hard it is to say good-bye to a T whether you're seeing a new T or not. The relationship we have with our Ts is so intimate. It makes sense to miss her/him when it's over.

This is very helpful to me as new board member. I just finished 5 years of psychoanalysis and grew to love my analyst very much. And I feel very lost even after only a week. The problem is that when a loved one dies, there are people to comfort you and people to talk to about the grief. After analysis there is no one and the person who provided support, the analyst, is gone. I am working through it with great difficulty and know I have to wait a while to contact her in order to let the benefits of analysis take root. But it is very rough for me even though I consider myself a sturdy person.