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Dec 10, 2009, 08:02 PM
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Yesterday presented a huge challenge for me and I exploded. I resorted to a really crummy and self destructive coping mechanism. I called T sobbing. It has been so long and I felt so crappy.
Today I saw him and I just looked at him and told him how sorry I was. He is the most amazing person. Not once did he make me feel bad or shamed. He gave me his special bandaids with antibiotic cream already in them. He said, "you can use them to take me with you." I had a moment. I told T that the rage I felt belonged in a different decade. But for that moment it was definitely not 2009. It has taken so long for me to feel as safe as I did tonight with him. He even made a ridiculous joke and I laughed. I will keep these bandaids forever. 
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Dec 10, 2009, 08:34 PM
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Ms C can I have a few of those bandaids? :-)
My T told me this week that my inner child will let go when she gets what she needs. After the session I realized that in therapy my T and I have done a good job of acknowledging that my inner child is a bit wounded, but...we really haven't helped her to stop getting bit and feeling things crawling on her. After seeing this post it made me think.. I should have asked my T if she had any snake and beetle repelant. |
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Dec 10, 2009, 08:37 PM
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I also have an amazing therapist who has the ability to take away the bad and shameful feelings, which creates the safety for me to get to the core issues. I am so happy for you...I can completely relate to what you must be feeling...sigh. I might be tempted to make a necklace out of those bandaids and never take it off. 
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Dec 10, 2009, 09:06 PM
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MissC, so glad your T is wonderful! I love the love and caring behind those Band-Aids!
Glad you are doing better now, too!! 
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Dec 10, 2009, 09:38 PM
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It is so painful when we resort to those crappy and self destructive coping mechanisms. Your T has an amazing way of soothing you and letting you know its OK for you to be wherever you are in the moment. I find that when T treats me (or even when my H treats me) in such a soothing way, I can better soothe myself in those raging moments or, more likely, after those raging moments. I just posted something about that, too...sigh....
Im glad you are feeling better
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Dec 10, 2009, 11:19 PM
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Oh MissC, you do have a wonderful T.....It's wonderful too that you've established such a good relationship with your T that you can share this and be treated so kindly and compassionately.
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Don't follow the path that lies before you. Instead, veer from the path - and leave a trail... 
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Dec 11, 2009, 08:25 AM
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miss C yes to not be shamed for how we've felt is the best isn't it!!!
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