[LittleMouse]

My therapist just turned 75 in November so its not lilke I have any romatic feeling for him but I do love him deeply. We've been together for 5 years and I know that he will retire soon. Not sure when as he wants to work as long as he can. I've told him I've told him I'm never leaving that he will have to be the one who leaves. As he ages my anxiety level goes up because I know we are just that much closer to the end of the relationship but I'm dealing with it as best as I can. He is the greatest and I plan on keeping him in my heart forever even after we are physically separated sometimes in the future. He has added so much joy to my life and has helped me through some very bad times. I can safely say that I can go on without him if I have to, that has been part of my healing process and well as my personal growth. He's great and I have no problems telling him how much I love him and he will share the same thing back. We know its a love of two souls who are connected and not a romantic love. He once told me that therapy was really about two peole learning to love each other in a healthy way....well we have arrived there and we will always love each other even when the day comes that he must go. I just wanted to share this with someone.

[skeksi]

What a beautiful post, LittleMouse. I think it's wonderful that you can see that although it will be very sad to end the relationship, you have grown in immeasurable ways thanks to it and his spirit will continue in your life even after you no longer see him.

It sounds like your work with him has been really successful--so when he does end his career, he can do so knowing that he's brought positive change to your life. What a lovely legacy.

[deliquesce]

it really warms my heart that you shared that with us, littlemouse. thank you!

[rainbow8]

He once told me that therapy was really about two peole learning to love each other in a healthy way....

I really like that quote, LittleMouse! Thanks for sharing your wonderful therapy relationship with us.

[LittleMouse]

Thanks for the feedback. We have discussed his retirement and also his death. I know it sounds crazy but in talking about ending the relationship we have discussed both. I told him one time that I would meet him agian in heavan and he told me the he would be looking for me so we could be together again. I know this sounds crazy, but I was dealing with death issues and this conversation just evolved. Now when I think about the end of our relationship in the future I feel comforted by the fact that we will be together again on the other side. Now don't get me wrong, he is healthy and should be around for a long time but I do now that he is aging and someday...sooner rather than later....he will retire and that will be the end of our physical relationship but I will always hold him in my heart.