[Utah Fan 1]

I've always had a hard time finding the right threapist, has anyone else had this problem. Where it's hard to trust them...Like it's a big enough problem trying to telling a compete stranger your problems.. Does anyone relate to this?

[SpottedOwl]

Hello Utah_Fan, and welcome to PC!!!

I think a lot of posters here can relate to your question.

It was hard for me to start therapy and tell a complete stranger about my life. I liked my T immediately, but it took months of working together to build up trust.

IMHO, if you can find someone you like as a person, that is a good place to start. Trust will come in time. It is perfectly 'ok' to tell your T you are having a hard time trusting them.

Are you currently seeing a therapist, or are you in the process of finding one?

Welcome to the boards!

[ECHOES]

Yes. Luckily the T that I found asked me if I could "Trust the process" when I was struggling. The building of trust is a huge part of the process. It takes time. A lot of time for some, like me, and less time for others.

I am almost 3 years in therapy and just recently having more times that I'm comfortable than uncomfortable.

Finding the right therapist for you involves a lot of trial and error just like so many other things about dealing with mental illness. I figure the therapist is there to help me. I try to be open and honest so he/she may her job. If therapy does not seem to be working after giving it a fair chance, I generally start anew with another.

Good luck.

[elliemay]

There is an old Buddhist proverb "When the student is ready the master appears". In this instance, I think when you are ready to talk, you will talk and the person sitting in the chair across from you will become less and less important.

[Utah Fan 1]

Thanks for the advice.....

[RiverX]

Originally Posted by Utah Fan 1

Thanks for the advice.....

beautiful picture!

I'd say keep looking, trust your instincts, dont be trusting, rather be discerning, try using tryouts, as in present a small problem to see how they respond. You'll know when you know. Theres as many unwell people on each side of the desk, only that some are more soffisticated.

[chaotic13]

I had a hard time figuring out that I was with the right T. Does that count? I also had a hard time figuring out that after a year of therapy my T was no longer a complete stranger and it was OK to tell her my problems.

Learning to trust someone was a really difficult lesson for me to learn. I say just keep trying to take little steps and if your with the right T eventually they'll find a way to earn your trust.

elliemay love the proverb...so true for where I'm at.