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Dec 20, 2009, 08:00 PM
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I have to skip my session this week because of a full work schedule. I am already feeling a little different. I don't know how to explain it. Usually I have an appointment on Monday morning. And knowing that I won't be going tomorrow has me feeling a little bummed. It's not that I NEED to see my T. But it just feels like it's been a long time already and I have another week to wait. And I'm just wondering if it will be strange when I do have my next appointment. Like loss of connection or something. Does that make sense? Is there a way to make it less of an issue for me? I kinda feel like I will have to work on getting that connection/bond again. Even though it's only been a very short time. Does anyone else deal with this? I mean, like I said it's only going to be a couple weeks. How do you handle it when you see your T like once or twice a month?
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Dec 20, 2009, 08:14 PM
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How long is your session normally? What does your T have to say about you skipping a session?
It's understandable with the holidays being so busy but take some time to think about how important your therapy session is to you and maybe squeeze it in? Even if you have to leave early. The holidays can be a rough time emotionally, there is a lot of change, stress and general fuss going around!
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Dec 20, 2009, 08:34 PM
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Yeah, I hate it when I have a long wait like this! Maybe if your T allows phone calls she would allow a 5 min conversation just to keep the connection. You can just say, "Hey T, I just feel like this break is going to cause some kind of disconnect.. can we briefly touch base over the break?" That might help.
Otherwise, maybe write your T a letter tomorrow instead of having your session, about all the things you wanted to talk about this week. Or sometimes I have pretend conversations with my T when we're having a break.. like I have a pretend session with myself, kind of fun, I play me, and I play T, too! Of course it's best to be home alone doing this, otherwise people might catch on that you're a little nuts! 
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Dec 20, 2009, 08:52 PM
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I'm sorry you won't be able to have your usual Monday morning session.
Yes it does make sense. I find that to be able to tolerate breaks or long times between sessions, I have to pull back from the connection. Nothing really happens to the connection, but it feels that way. When I had to go a while of sessions every two weeks, I was very pulled away from the connection by the time of my next session. Even after I got there, I kept saying "It seems like forever since I've been here!". It took a little longer to get into the session during that time. Sometimes it confused me. Is the connection real, I would wonder, or something that mysteriously happens only because I see her every week. But I concluded that, for me, the only way to get through to the next session was to pull back. When we reconnected, we reconnected like before.. and all was good 
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Dec 21, 2009, 09:12 AM
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My sessions are usually an hour. They are supposed to be like 45-50 min. but we usually run long. And if I happen to get the one right before or right after his lunch we usually talk abit longer. He was really trying to get me to schedule my session because I have alot of stress in my life at the moment. But I just couldn't. With what he had available and what my work schedule will allow just wouldn't work. Jexa- I like your idea of the phone call. I may do that later to see if I can just get a little 'session' in. Maybe that'll help me feel less of a disconnection with him. I totally do the session thing in my head. I'll hear what I think he would say. When I am really battling anxiety it kinda puts things back in perspective. Quote:
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Dec 21, 2009, 10:17 AM
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I've been with my t a little over 2 years, and he takes A LOT of vacations, especially in the summer. Sometimes I am able to maintain the connection, sometimes it does feel like a step back, and we have to work to rebuild the connection. I am learning that for me, that is part of my work in therapy. To be able to learn to stay connected, even when we are not together, to let go of the fear that somehow things are going to change. It's okay...we ALWAYS rebuild the connection, ALWAYS...and I learn a lot in the process. No matter what happens, it will be okay.  If you are connected now, you will be connected again.
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Dec 21, 2009, 07:53 PM
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Thank you for that treehouse. I really needed to hear that tonight. Your kind words lifted my spirits a bit.
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Dec 21, 2009, 11:12 PM
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I'm sorry if my saying that it took a little longer to reconnect might have sounded as if we had to totally rebuild the connection. It wasn't like that at all It was just a matter of settling in and then all was well.
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Dec 22, 2009, 09:30 AM
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Echoes, No I get what you're saying. I haven't been with my T that long. And I am just starting to open up. Just starting to talk about stuff that actually matters. I can talk and talk about everything else, but I hold back on the stuff that is important to me. And I guess I'm a little worried that the next session I'll end up just chatting about stuff that happened over the holidays. And hearing about his. But not getting back to where our last session left off. And then go another week before the next session. And who knows if I'll feel comfortable enough to open up. Not sure if I'm explaining what I'm thinking. But I guess it's sorta along the lines of losing momentum (however you spell it). And taking awhile to get it back. And how do I deal with all the stuff in the mean time. The stuff that is sucking the life out of me.
BUT after hearing what others have said I feel a little better about it. And thinking it won't be too difficult. If I felt at ease with him before it'll happen again. Right? I just have to make sure that I don't close myself off. |
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Dec 28, 2009, 08:03 PM
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Went to my appt. this morning. And it was a little awkward. I didn't feel connected to him. I felt a bit removed. And I ended up just chatting with him. Almost like I was talking w/ a friend seeking advice or just venting about all the crummy stuff going on. I felt a little better when I left but it was definately different. It sucks because I know he's going on vacation in Jan. so there will be another break in the near future. I suppose I should bring this up with T, but feel kinda funny about it.
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Dec 28, 2009, 08:05 PM
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It is frustrating when it feels like there isn't time to delve into something because a break is coming up.
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