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Dec 31, 2009, 11:13 AM
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Why am I dreading this so much?
I used to go in there prepared with things that I wanted to talk about....but then, last week, I wasn't. I didn't feel like talking. It was awkward and uncomfortable. I told him I felt like I was wasting his time. I have been dealing with all sorts of feelings lately....and there's plenty I'm sure that we could talk about....Like: - more memories of past abuse that he's not aware of and the ruminating that I've been doing about it, and how I'm fighting with myself over it all... - the pattern that I always seem to get in with my ex and his most recent nastiness... - me refusing to explore the anger I felt towards T in group the other day.... There's plenty to talk about. But I don't want to. I get such a sick feeling in my stomach every time I think about those things, and I don't want to feel that. Why can't I just be able to say that the past is the past and to just focus on other things?
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Dec 31, 2009, 11:25 AM
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you don't have to get into iany of these things, if you don't feel like it; but going anyway will not be wasted. The willingness to work is so much of the battle itself. Maybe you could tell T how turned off you feel about some of these things and see what kind of discussion follows. It may help you not to feel the sick feeling in the stomach, and that's worth something. 
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Dec 31, 2009, 11:31 AM
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I think that you will feel relief if you push yourself past this and just do it. Take your hands and cover your face and just tell him!
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Dec 31, 2009, 11:38 AM
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I wish I could leave the past in the past as well, but I can't. Some of my best theapy sessions have been when I didn't have anything prepaird to talk about. I used to obsess about having a topic to bring up with her, but it seemed to help when I just came in with a blank slate and let my emotions flow.
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Dec 31, 2009, 01:10 PM
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Just go in with honesty to yourself. Therapy is not for the T - it is for YOU. The only time could be waisting is your very own. So use the therapy process as a tool to gain what you want from mental/emotional health. Honesty with EXACTLY what is going on inside of your heart and mind. Let him earn his title as your T.
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Dec 31, 2009, 01:56 PM
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When I am having a hard time talking, I usually talk about having a hard time talking. At least I'm SAYING something when I do that, I'm letting T know what's going on, and I'm letting T know that there is stuff that I need to talk about and I can't do it for some reason. Then he is able to help me push past the stuck place and move forward.
Good luck today, MUE
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