How Can I Be Angry & Still Be a Good Daughter?

(((((Peaches))))),

I am so proud of you! You showed T your feelings after she helped you realize that you were angry. That is amazing progress for you. You let her in, something you have struggled with so much!!

I'm thinking about how your crying with your H hugging you was not the "perfect" moment you always thought it would be. I still fantasize about the perfect moment of crying with my T but I know it would also be imperfect. The beauty of life is, like Sannah said, that it is NOT perfect, but it can still be beautiful. Connecting with others, Ts, spouses, husbands, and/or friends is imperfect but it's all we have, and is something to cherish.

I imagine you will have a lot of feelings about your session. I hope they are all happy ones!

I wanted to add one more thought. I'm not sure if it might apply to you or not, Peaches. For me part of the big thing in talking with my therapist about my mother's faults was that I had to let them be known. I always knew she had shortcomings and faults, but didn't want anyone else to know. I was protecting her from her own imperfections and therefore not allowing her to be human. So I do think that part of this for me was allowing my parents their flaws and mistakes. Just a thought I had late at night here...