[camel2009]

Today i went to store to get soft drink beside the store is a Subway I Seen my T come out with her lunch. She came to ask how i was doing i said fine that didn't bother me her asking how i was. Then out of the blue She was like would u like for me to buy u lunch. I said thanks for asking but No she like come on i'm not suppose to do it but i want buy u lunch, finally I said ok. Now family was like why did u do that i was like i don't know. few of them r saying that i'm getting to close 2 her. we know she has been there for u when things happens. A few family members say u need a break from your T for awhile. Should take a break from T

[emilyjeanne]

Originally Posted by camel2009

Today i went to store to get soft drink beside the store is a Subway I Seen my T come out with her lunch. She came to ask how i was doing i said fine that didn't bother me her asking how i was. Then out of the blue She was like would u like for me to buy u lunch. I said thanks for asking but No she like come on i'm not suppose to do it but i want buy u lunch, finally I said ok. Now family was like why did u do that i was like i don't know. few of them r saying that i'm getting to close 2 her. we know she has been there for u when things happens. A few family members say u need a break from your T for awhile. Should take a break from T

Hey Camel,

You didn't do anything wrong. I would bring up what happened at your next session. Discuss how it made you feel and what your family said.

You didn't do anything wrong. I would bring up what happened at your next session. Discuss how it made you feel and what your family said.[/quote]

i agree..you didn't do anything wrong...i would bring it up with your t. my dr's know i am on a fixed income and things get really tight sometimes. they know i scramble and sometimes i have to do without things. it bothers them. upon occasion i let my one dr help me out...(regular md)..should i? probably not..it crosses boundaries...but i know it bothers her to see me without stuff.

let me explain it better...i know i am poor. last thanksgiving i didn't have the money for dinner..i had some stuffing and things around the house but no chicken or anything..i figured i would eat what i had and that would be okay. no big deal.

my doc asked me what i was having..so i told her i got as far as stuffing and if i got paid for my dog walking then i would buy some stuff for dinner, if not then whatever. she went and got me some $$ from her bag. it made her feel better to do that. should she have done that? no. it broke boundaries but there is a point where i know it makes her feel better to do that...and it is okay.her care of me is within safe limits.

maybe your t thought the same way..maybe you looked hungry..or cold, or sad...or what ever...or she just needed to help you extra that day.

no harm no foul.

my doc isn't going to come to my house and feed me every day, or drop off rolls of cash, or harm me sexually or anything. i know that. and i don't go there and ask for cash, or food .

this was the first time in 5 years she has ever gone into her wallet for me because i needed food...and beleive me there have been times there was no food in my house. there have been periods when i haven't eaten for days and she didn't know it, and i didn't say.

when my doc got a new puppy i helped her out with it. i became her go to person for puppy info..now almost a year later i still am. it's kind of funny..me the crazy patient..who knows about dogs...i get all the late night puppy calls...and that's okay.

sometimes people just like (need) to want to reach out and help someone..

stumpy

[sunrise]

I agree, it might be good to discuss this with your T if it is on your mind.

As for the negativity of your family members, sometimes it's best not to share things related to therapy with family. It's your therapy and you can keep it to yourself. A lot of people who have never been in therapy don't really understand it, so their comments are often uninformed and unhelpful. If you take a break from therapy, it should be because you want to, not because your family said so. If you are considering taking a break, that is a great topic to bring up with your T.

[ECHOES]

Good idea to not share therapy with family.
As my T said to me (when I complained that family thinks I should just 'take a pill' and get over myself), "Oh, family doesn't "get" therapy!"
Therapy is very personal. Our relationship with our therapist is personal. It is all yours !

[pachyderm]

Originally Posted by stumpy

i get all the late night puppy calls...and that's okay.

Do you mean that you get late night calls about puppies, or from puppies?

Originally Posted by pachyderm

Do you mean that you get late night calls about puppies, or from puppies?

sometimes...a little bit of both!

a bassets first arrooo just has to be shared!
sometimes a dog will call here asking if my boys can come out & play (altho not usually late at night)

while visitors might find it weird to here barking on the phone..i somehow never do.

stumpy

[Kiya]

like stumpy said, i too have had help from my Ts and dr's - GP gave me meds when I couldn't buy them. She said she wasn't supposed to but she knew i coulnd't do without and my health was more important to her than the boundary she was crossing.
One t of mine has also done stuff like that for me. ANd - maybe your T saw it as a chance to connect. Connection can be as healing as therapy. =)
my mom tries to get me to quit my t's and doctors all the time. But i know that she doesn't know what is best for me, and is not herself a healthy person. So i don't listen to her when she says that.
I think you did just fine.

[chaotic13]

I don't think accept a lunch offer was wrong. Becareful listening to your family. Unlike Ts there opinions and comments have have hidden objectives. Many times family members want to keep others from getting too close.

[ECHOES]

How are you doing today, camel?

[camel2009]

Originally Posted by ECHOES

How are you doing today, camel?

I'm doing fine, I saw T yesterday and we talk about this She said the only reason she did this was because she said I was not like her other clients that come in and give me crap and they don't care if they get help. she said you want help and you don't give an attitude and treat me like crap. I wish most of my clients were like you. It would make my day go by faster. she then said she was sorry for buying me lunch. I said it was OK but I was shocked when you asked me.