I posted in an earlier thread that my t has offered to do phone sessions with me since I'm suddenly being relocated for work. I had assumed this to mean that I would continue on with her as long as I need via phone...

She explained to me today that in fact what she meant is that we could use phone sessions temporarily to help me transition to a new t.

Ouch. How could I be so stupid? Here I was thinking I wouldn't have to give up my wonderful t and start over mid-stream. It took so much work to get here. I can't fathom starting over and learning to trust someone new.

[(JD)]

I'm sorry she wasn't clearer.

But I'm glad she is willing to do that, to help you transition.
I think there's a limit by the insurance companies, or
maybe it's a new ethical guideline, IDK.
But take the phone sessions while you need them.
Sometimes life is tough.

[chaotic13]

You weren't being stupid you were just trying to keep a good working relationship despite a suddened change in your work situation. Sound like your life has a lot of changes going on...Trying to maintain a your T relationship isn't stupid at all. Be kind to yourself.

[gravyyy]

This really works out though... I am doing this right now. I talk to my old T every 2 weeks by phone (since November) but I have seen a new T about 6 times now. My old T said during our conversation last week that next week will be our last (but she said she plans on unofficially calling to check in). This was immensely helpful because I could tel all the scary and hard stuff to old T while I was getting to trust new T and I do trust her now so it's should be a seamless transition. It will all work out for you. Hopefully your T now will hang around until you definitely find the one T who is going to help you. Best of luck with this situation.

Um, yes. Of course sometimes life is tough.

Indeed this is about resistance to change and facing my attachment to T head-on. I have never attached to anyone except my h this deeply, so it feels tremendous that I won't always have her in my life.

That doesn't mean I don't appreciate the offer of phone sessions or agree that they will be helpful.

I'm just heartbroken. I finally attach to someone in a healthy way and the relationship is cut short. I'm not ready to leave the nest. Nor am I ready to go through the painful process of building trust again so soon...

[theave]

I really feel for you. I had to leave my support behind when I moved to the US last summer; I recently got copies of my medical notes and got really upset when I saw her discharge letter to my GP. Of course I knew I was discharged as I was no longer in the country, but it still hurt.

But I have found someone new who I like and trust, and feel I am making progress again. I still find it hard, though, to have had to say goodbye to that support when I still needed it. Maybe it's to do with control, that it wasn't my choice or the right time to stop.

I hope you too will be able to find someone new you can trust - but I do understand how sad you must be feeling.

[Kiya]

=( I'm so sorry - that is a blow. My t told me i need to work with a specialist and i cried for months.

I just wanted to come back to this thread and say thanks for the responses.

I'm feeling a bit better about this early termination. I'm still really really sad, but it's also given me the courage to open up to my T more about how much she means to me, and her response has been very comforting.

She's helping me see that this is not the end of our relationship. Things are changing, and that is really hard to accept since our work is not finished....but she's not abandoning me.

I am also realizing that I don't have to rush to find a new T. I'm not on any meds and I function quite well outside of therapy. So I can wait and look for someone when I feel ready. Taking that pressure off myself feels good.