[Dani]

Today I found myself driving to my old therapists office and sitting in the parking lot. I don't know what drove me to go there, I haven't gone there for therapy in over 10 years. I guess part of me misses the way I used to feel when I went there, how safe I felt, how my T would sit in a chair close to me and the hugs my T would give me after each session, making me feel safe and protected. I don't have that with my current T who I've been seeing for two years. She's nice but I don't feel as comfortable with her. She sits near her desk and some days I feel so far away from her. I have a really difficult time talking to her and feel like I always have to have this guard up when I'm there. I wish I could tell her about my previous T but I don't know if I can get up the courage to do it.

[WePow]

(((( Dani )))) It sounds like you went there because you miss what you had. I am sorry you have that empty place inside. No fun.

(((Dani))))

That story makes me feel so sad. Maybe there is a part of you that is feeling like you can't get what you need from your current therapist. I wonder what it would feel like to look for someone who can give you more of what you need?

[Dani]

Thanks for your responses. Unfortunately, there's no other option for me for therapy. I'm a poor college student and my county pays for my therapy so I have no insurance. And the community health center in my town is the only place to get therapy in this area. I feel like I'm stuck and wanting to just give up on therapy.

[darkrunner]

Dani -
I think you should talk to your new T about it. I know it will be hard, but do you have to lose? For me it's always easier to write something than to talk....would it be easier if you sent her an email? Or wrote her a letter?

I really understand the feeling of wanting to give up.

I have a really difficult time talking to her and feel like I always have to have this guard up when I'm there. I wish I could tell her about my previous T but I don't know if I can get up the courage to do it.

[Mike_J]

Talking about your old therapist might be a great way to build a bond with your new one, just a thought (as will all my suggestions please keep in mind I'm pretty messed up)

[Dani]

Thanks guys, I think I'm going to write a letter to her about my old T and my feelings I've been having lately and take it with me to therapy on Wednesday.

[googley]

I know that when I switched Ts my new T was happy to talk to me about my old T. I was worried that it would make her mad or jealous if I talked about my old T because I really missed her. But she was totally fine with it and said it was normal. She also wanted to know what worked for me with my old T so that she could understand what she could do to help me.