[pinksoil]

I'm thinking of asking my mom for money to see T one time. It's not a lot of money at all. It's just that with only one income income for the last four months, my husband is paying for everything... so until I get paid and catch up on my bills, he can't give me therapy money. I figure that if I ask my mom, at least I can get it for one session, and then it won't be that long until I can start seeing him again. I really, really, really, really, really need to see him! I'm staying connected by calling and emailing. I enjoy group therapy at my dual-diagnosis place, and I really like the therapist there. BUT I WANT MY T!!!!!!! We have worked together since 2005. I feel so comfortable with him. I know I keep posting about the same thing, but that's all that's really going on with me therapy-wise. Well I guess I could post about my group therapy... but this is a pressing issue!! I'm hanging in there. I have only seen T three times since the middle of December. What's 9328430249823048723942394 more days??

hey Pink,

Asking your mom is a great idea. And if it feels better, you could ask for a loan and pay her back later.

I'm glad you're going back to T. I'm having a hard time reconciling therapy and AA right now...but I think it's just part of the process. I don't know.

[dfh932]

Hi Pink,

I would do just about whatever needed to be done, including asking mom You can always pay her back like Treehouse says. I kinda tend to think there will always be more money, money can be gotten and spent and given and taken. We can always find money, and it comes and goes.

But T is more important than money, and I'm sure your mom will help you out. Do whatever you gotta do is my motto

[Perna]

I found the "practice" being without T, though excruciatingly uncomfortable, kind of helpful in showing me what I could do on my own. I'd pretend T was out of town or something and experiment with not contacting him at all? Or, I would definately borrow money from whomever I could (Mom :-) to go see him but not just get one session's worth, I'd create a plan for doing bills, getting paid, paying back, etc. and work on the plan. I use to buy a few hundred dollars worth of books every month so when I needed money I'd buy NONE for a month or two and get the money for whatever, that way. No matter what, one usually manages to get what is wanted/needed, it's just a matter of time/choice. Just knowing that about myself often helped me.

[Mike_J]

I don't see anything wrong with asking, assuming you have a reasonable relationship with her and she could afford to help you out a bit.