[gravyyy]

I'm a pretty understanding client when it comes to cancellations and running late and all that. I have never said 2 words in the past with this new pdoc running routinely 60-90 minutes late because he gives everyone fair time. If you need to see him for 30 minutes he will see you for 30 minutes. The problem is that he is only in the office 3 Tuesdays in the whole month. He works at other offices during the week too. I have been having a rough time the past week with memory and having difficulty working and writing my patient notes for work has been hard b/c I can't seem to form the letters right. I can't do simple subtraction (73-6 took me about 5 minutes to figure out). I was really needing the pdoc appt this past Tuesday but they called me about an hour before my appt and said he was cancelling his appts. I am on for next Tuesday which is fine but I'm hurting real bad. Then I was supposed to see T this morning and I just got a call saying she's cancelling. Secretary says she's sick. That means with her I have 1 session next Friday and then she's off for over a month b/c she's the clinical director and they're having an insurance audit that she needs to prepare for. So I'm basically hung out to dry at this point. I feel so lousy and I can't even get the help I need. This is strike 2 against this office. One more and I'm outta there. I'm just so darn frustrated. If I felt well or even average it would be different but it's scary with trying to do my job. I'm worried something is going to happen with that. ANyway... sorry for rambling... thanks for letting me vent.

Vent away. I'd be frustrated too.

[Lamplighter]

I echo Farmergirl’s words to you too Gravyyy. In fact I’d be more than frustrated, I’d be livid. It’s all very well being told not to take something like that personally, as far as I’m concerned it IS personal - the imbalance of power such that you’re the one left suffering while it’s no skin off your P’s and T’s noses to not see you for the one appointment (each) but for you you’re stuck with a huge time frame of no support.

You say that if it happens again you’re outta there - does that mean you have other options? Or would you have problems finding other therapists and Pdocs? I have to say that’s exactly how I’d feel in your situation, especially with a pdoc consistently running late like that, to the point where I’d actually start looking at other options, just to feel like I have SOME control over the situation.

I hope you can cope ok with your job in the meantime and find some support to get you through.

Torn Mind

[granite1]

so sorry hun i bet it is so frustrating.im not seeing my T for a month and i so know how you are feeling will you be able to call of e mail her durring this time?

[ECHOES]

Time to say your 2 words.
There is nothing wrong with feeling frustrated and angry. Talk with her about these things. We don't get credits for keeping our concerns unspoken.

It might be that this pdoc's schedule/availabliity isn't going to work for you.
Questions that come up as I read your post:
Can you see her in the other offices?
What is her policy regarding urgent needs?
Did you express that you have an urgent need right now and this is the best she can respond?
When she is away or not available, is there someone who fills in for her?

I hope you feel better soon!