T might be married, might be not

Just yesterday I noticed a ring on my T's left hand's fourth finger. He probably had it for a while and I didn't notice it. Anyway, what's weird is that, during my first year with him I noticed a band ring on that exact finger, which disappeared for a year or so. And now all of a sudden there's a ring on that finger again. I wonder what it could mean. Should I ask? Well, if he refuses to tell me I would be humiliated for sure. I generally don't ask anything.

you can ask if you want, but i guess you should be prepared if he doesnt want to talk about personal stuff with you. some Ts are more open about that stuff than others. its not about humiliating the client, just having different boundaries.

Yes I guess I could ask. But in the meantime any thoughts on the strangeness of the ring and no-ring. I certainly understand about boundaries and all of us here do. But since it's a supportive place for us to talk about our T, we can share anything, I hope. It was a thought that passed through my mind like any other T-related thought.

Thanks for replying though.

I'd ask. He might not answer, but I'd ask anyway out of curiosity.

i don't think i'd ask although i'd be curious too. my guess is he either was separated from his wife and they got back together or he divorced and remarried.

I wouldn't ask. It has nothing to do with my therapy.

Curiosity is healthy. There is not a thing wrong with asking about something you notice.
Your asking is about your curiosity.
His replying, or not replying, is about him. A therapist may choose to answer or not, or not at that time, if they think aswering or the answer might interfere with the therapy process.

My therapist has a grown daughter. She mentioned her early in my therapy. I didn't ask personal questions because I didn't want to know a lot about my therapist when I first began with her. One year around Christmas my therapist was going to take a week off, then her plans changed. I asked something later about her plans changing and she replied "We decided...". .. "We?" .. hmm. She doesn't wear a ring. So, brave person that I am... a few sessions later... I ask. Who is the other part of "We"? I was so expecting an answer because it was a rare personal question. (As if that meant she "had to" answer, as if she is not a separate person who chooses whether to answer a question or not, based on her own thoughts and feelings). So I asked and she said she was choosing to no answer that, but wanted to talk about my being curious and what I imagined the answer was. (Adding to the process, rather than distracting or interfering). So that's what happened with me. Much later she casually mentioned her husband, so her choosing to not answer was about that very moment when I asked, and about my asking, my curiosity.

Anything and everything is to talk about in therapy.

Thank you Echoes. You have validated my imperfection. I appreciated your insight and your wisdom about this process. It's nice to be able to accept that I am allowed to be "me" in my sessions and T can be T too. I really felt supported by your response and your kind understanding. It is nice to know that this psychotherapy group exists just so we can be there for one another, being the faulty and nosy people we might be.

Thank you Bloom. Your point is logical. (Actually it fuels my curiosity more)