[zooropa]

I had a meeting today with my case manager and my prescriber. I have been feeling really good lately and she noticed that, which was great. But when I told her that I'm going to be starting trauma work with my T again next week, my PNP was very negative about it. She told me that it's not important to go back through that stuff and that I should just shut the book on it and start again from here. She said "some people just aren't strong enough to do that work."

It was just really discouraging and while I trust my T far, far more than I will ever trust this PNP, it does kind of shake my faith in the process to have a mental health professional tell me to basically get over it, and that I'm not strong enough to do it.

[WePow]

((((( Zoo )))))))) It is poison... it needs to come out. I am sorry she said that. You ARE strong enough. You made it this far!

[Elysium]

Zoo~ I agree with WePow. Besides, it's not your PNP's place to TELL you what you're therapeutic path should be, or to try and TELL you whether you are strong enough to handle it.

That decision is best left up to you and your Trauma T. There isn't a main road that you will be walking down. You will be traveling down many side roads and you will be able to adapt your therapy to suit your needs. If at some point you need to slow down or you feel ready to step back for a while and work towards a different goal, then you will be able to do so.

Trust your gut.

[sunrise]

I think it's really hard to be put in the middle of two professionals like that, and to me, it borders on inappropriate. I think a better direction would be if your PNP has strong concerns, she should speak with your T. You shouldn't have to be the one to justify your T's treatment approach.

At the very least, you can talk to your T and tell him your worries about what your PNP said. He will probably offer to speak with her.

[skeksi]

I look at it this way: while my medication prescriber might know what's best for me medically, my T knows what's best for me emotionally. They each have different experience and expertise. My medical prescriber recently made a comment about one of my symptoms (hypervigilance). But I disregarded it because me and my T know my symptoms better, since we discuss them weekly and not once every three months.

All expert advice can be useful to consider, but not necessarily to follow.

[Sannah]

She's not a therapist............

[TayQuincy]

It just sounds like she is concerned about you. She sees you have been doing well and feeling great and is concerned that trauma work will change that. I mean, it's hard. Just because she voices her opinion doesn't mean she is telling you what to do. That is your choice.

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by zooropa

I had a meeting today with my case manager and my prescriber. I have been feeling really good lately and she noticed that, which was great. But when I told her that I'm going to be starting trauma work with my T again next week, my PNP was very negative about it. She told me that it's not important to go back through that stuff and that I should just shut the book on it and start again from here. She said "some people just aren't strong enough to do that work."

It was just really discouraging and while I trust my T far, far more than I will ever trust this PNP, it does kind of shake my faith in the process to have a mental health professional tell me to basically get over it, and that I'm not strong enough to do it.

What she said makes me feel angry. Who is she to try to limit you and your experiences and your goals?!

But you don't have to accept a word of what she said. Because what she says is really about her. It's about her perceptions and beliefs.
You have your own perceptions and beliefs that you go by.
She is she and you are you.
Thank goodness!

Please remember that there are all kinds of people in the world, including the professional world. Being a professional doesn't mean having all of the answers or having the answers for every person.

You be you