[doogie]

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How do you tell your t about sui thoughts? I know I need to talk to him about them, but how do you bring it up? I don't think I would ever act on the, but sometimes I just don't feel safe with myself, if that makes any sense. We have a good relationship and we have talked "around" the issues before, but I just don't really know how to bring it up. Anybody else been there and have any experience?

Doogie

[WePow]

You need to be very honest with T about this topic.
For me, I had to first know he was not going to harm me further.
I told him what my thoughts were only after feeling him out and asking hypothetical questions such as "If a client said they thought xyz, how would you respond?"
He knew exactly where I was going with that and made me feel safe in sharing with him my truth.

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by doogie

trigger ...

How do you tell your t about sui thoughts? I know I need to talk to him about them, but how do you bring it up? I don't think I would ever act on the, but sometimes I just don't feel safe with myself, if that makes any sense. We have a good relationship and we have talked "around" the issues before, but I just don't really know how to bring it up. Anybody else been there and have any experience?

Doogie

I hate to do this, and I've never done it before, but I truly believe that WePow, in her post No. 2 on this thread, said it ALL, as shortly and sweetly as could possibly be done. There's simply nothing to add to what she said. All I can add is that my experience tallies exactly with WePow's. Exactly. You can't do better than to follow her advice. Take care, and let us know how it works out with your T.

[Miss Laura]

Hey Doogie,

I just had to tell my Counsellor as I was SOOO unsafe. I eventually texted her the day after it all happened. She gave me an emergency appointment and we spoke about why and how I did it. She didn't rush me and didn't pressure me into talking. It was done at my pace. She wanted me to let all my emotions out as I was on the verge of tears. But I just couldn't let her in... She spoke to me and we discussed it all. I felt a million times better after telling her. She knew about my previous times too so I felt I could trust her with this information

Hope this helps

[Perna]

I would just tell your T what you've told us, "sometimes I don't feel safe around myself. I don't think I would act on my thoughts but. . ." and see what conversation develops. Presumably you are raising the issue with your T during a time you feel able to talk about it rather than a time you feel in danger and your T should know that so it's just a conversation about what concerns you, like any other about sex, or your mother :-)