[JustWannaDisappear]

I'm wondering, what happens in therapy when dealing with SA issues? Do you give details of events? My T is on vacation for a week, so I have 10days until my next appt. I'm really nervous now after telling her about the SA. In the past I had two other Ts that I had told, one asked me if I could remember details, I told her no and told her I couldn't talk about it. The other would push for details and in some ways I think that made my ED behaviors & SI worse (this was in treatment for bulimia). So now, I'm scared for the next session. I trust her, and feel pretty comfortable with her, but would like maybe an outline or something so I can mentally prepare myself for our next session. I know it's different for everyone & every T. But I'm freaking out!!

[Melbadaze]

In my experience I have never been forced to talk about any thing, and have only been listened too. when I first disclosed, or rather a yr in when it slipped out because I was intending to never tell, and was sure I could do therapy without talking about this part of my past, but as I say a yr in I said something and put my hand to mouth when I realised what I'd said, and still T didnt push me. But it depends on the type of therapy I guess.

[Melbadaze]

I will add, that befoe therapy, I used dramatic self disclosure as a substitute for real relating, it was a shock for me to find that T didnt need me to be dramatic and listened to all my issues even the ones I use to think mudane, I think some feel they need to please the therapist and bring juicy things to disclose, thats only a small part of the therapy.

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My T never pushed me for details, but he did encourage me to share what I could, so I wouldn't be alone with it anymore. He let me go at my own pace. When I was very close to telling, then he would encourage me...tell me that the way to get power over it instead of it having power over me was to bring it out of the darkness and into the light...and his encouragement would help me say what I needed to say.

I was in therapy a LONG time before I disclosed the abuse. I needed to feel safe first, and needed to learn some containment, coping skills, etc. first.

There have actually been times when T has reminded me that I didn't have to tell right then...times when I've been unstable, and maybe he was worried that it would be too much for me.

For me, it was important to be allowed to go at my own pace...but it was also important for me to tell. I'll never tell the details to anyone else, ever, but having T know helps me feel less alone. I needed someone to witness my story, and T is that witness.

[JustWannaDisappear]

Originally Posted by treehouse

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My T never pushed me for details, but he did encourage me to share what I could, so I wouldn't be alone with it anymore. He let me go at my own pace. When I was very close to telling, then he would encourage me...tell me that the way to get power over it instead of it having power over me was to bring it out of the darkness and into the light...and his encouragement would help me say what I needed to say.

I was in therapy a LONG time before I disclosed the abuse. I needed to feel safe first, and needed to learn some containment, coping skills, etc. first.

There have actually been times when T has reminded me that I didn't have to tell right then...times when I've been unstable, and maybe he was worried that it would be too much for me.

For me, it was important to be allowed to go at my own pace...but it was also important for me to tell. I'll never tell the details to anyone else, ever, but having T know helps me feel less alone. I needed someone to witness my story, and T is that witness.

this is where we're at. I saw my first T for 2yrs and never really felt comfortable with her, while seeing her I was in treatment and I didn't feel like I clicked well with that T, plus she really pushed me.

I'm at a place right now where I feel pretty safe with myself as far as SI goes. I'm kind of iffy with the ED right now, but the thought of ever giving more info to her makes me panic. I literally feel like throwing up whenever I think about it. I know she won't push me, she's told me several times she wouldn't. I also told her about the T who really pushed me and I walked out of treatment (that wasn't the only reason tho) also, telling her about being called a liar when I told my family, she told me she thinks it's like being SA all over again. That struck me because that's exactly how I felt, but I also feel like talking about it, especially if I need to give any details will feel the same way. And I'm not sure I'm ready for that. Part of me wants to quit therapy because it's causing so much anxiety just thinking about it.