[koalabb123456]

Sometime i worry about my T would feel overwhelming and stress out after seeing clients all day. Even though i know she is a very confident, strong, and tough lady. And sometime i worry about her health because she is asthmatic and she always coughing and trying to breath in session. Does it sound crazy that i am always worrying about her instead of worrying about myself?

[sunrise]

I would be concerned too. It seems like the coughing and difficulty in breathing would be hard to ignore so it would be OK to ask her about whether she is OK--not prying. There are different medications that can help control asthma and maybe you might be reassured to know she is controlling her asthma as best as she can, or perhaps if she knows how her presentation in session is worrying clients, she might seek "the next step up" in medication for asthma control from her physician. (Maybe she is already maxed out, but maybe not.)

I think the worry that your T is overwhelmed from seeing clients could be brought up too. I bet your T knows how to take care of herself RE that issue. I think they are specifically trained for that. But still, it might help you if you told her your concern and she could reassure you about her ability to deal with her daily pressures.

[jexa]

I agree with sunrise on this. I think it's a totally normal thing to worry about someone's health when you can see that someone is having a problem. And I also think it's pretty common for people to worry about their T and whether hearing about people's stuff all day takes a toll on them. People who choose to be T's are people who are willing to take the burden of pain from others. I think T's learn to take care of themselves so that empathizing with the pain of other people does not hinder their lives. I agree with sunrise, this is a totally okay question to ask your T. She may tell you about some of the ways she takes care of herself.

[BlackCanary]

I asked my T how she does this work without a break - she appears to let most clients roll past the 45 minute mark. It was bothering me - I worried that other people's stuff would slide into my session if she didn't get a break.
But she ended up explaining a bit of her technique and how she resets herself. I accepted her answer, I believe her that it is possible for her to do this. So, I don't worry about her now. I also discovered that I need to have the end of session be well defined!

So, have the discussion about the therapists job. And, I'd say go ahead and make the observation "It seems like you have trouble with your asthma". She may not want to talk about that so much - or maybe the client before you has a cat and it triggers her! She may not realize that your awareness of her wheezing breathing is a distraction, she may not notice it herself.

[Kacey2]

[quote=BlackCanary;1530736]I asked my T how she does this work without a break - she appears to let most clients roll past the 45 minute mark. It was bothering me - I worried that other people's stuff would slide into my session if she didn't get a break.
But she ended up explaining a bit of her technique and how she resets herself. I accepted her answer, I believe her that it is possible for her to do this. So, I don't worry about her now. I also discovered that I need to have the end of session be well defined!quote]

BC- can you elaborate on what she shared with you as her technique? if you feel comfortable.