[donut]

I do. I am sick of him. I get the distinct feeling he is humouring me most of the time. I hate him at the moment; probably some wierd transference going on! Actually I feel I have stepped back from him. I no longer feel as dependent as I once did now that my BP is more under control. I have always quite liked him, now for some reason I cannot stand him. I feel almost resentful of him. Ungrateful or what!

[madisgram]

no donut i don't think you are ungrateful tho it may seem so to you. perhaps you might want to look at that further..sometimes i used to get miffed with my T and it was usually about something he said that pushed a button or somethin' like that. then again it's natural to enjoy ones independence so maybe that's all it is.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by donut

I do. I am sick of him. I get the distinct feeling he is humouring me most of the time. I hate him at the moment; probably some wierd transference going on! Actually I feel I have stepped back from him. I no longer feel as dependent as I once did now that my BP is more under control. I have always quite liked him, now for some reason I cannot stand him. I feel almost resentful of him. Ungrateful or what!

yea I do and when I am angry at my therapist or psychiatrist I do let them know it and then some. LMAO

I figure thats what they are for right. Im paying them to listen to me and help me with my problems, it just happens sometimes my problem is them. I dont expect to like them all the time cause if I did they would be my friend not a treatment person doing their job. And I do expect them to do their job. and deal with it when I am making them do their job by helping me with my problems with them as well as my problems with others outside of treatment.I also feel that Im paying them so that I dont have to keep everything bottled up churning around inside so why keep things to myself when Im angry at them.

the result of my being so honest and open with them including letting them know when I think they are off base or Im angry with them is that we have a much deeper client therapist, client psychiatrist relationship and a much deeper trust built up.

suggestion - go for it let your psychiatrist know you are angry with them and why.

[donut]

Hey why doesn't replies show up on the main board?

[donut]

Oh I see. It has been moved.

[Travelinglady]

I DID dump my last one. (And have been dumped by one myself--ha! What a jerk!) I think you're right to process your feelings to see where they might be coming from. My last one was older than God and thought he was God. We disagreed about his yanking me off all my anti-depressants cold turkey. He claimed the symptoms I was having were all in my head because I had read the stories from other patients--and that there was no scientific evidence for my claims. Well, that got my dander up and I printed off a bunch of studies that verified my symptoms and even made copies for the social worker in his office who I was also seeing. (THAT really ticked him off!) The next time I came in, he tried to convince me that I was being "grandiose" and just "trying to get attention." He said "he had been taking people off those drugs cold turkey for years!" Well, I thought I was justified in finding another psychiatrist, anyway!

Thanks for letting me vent.

As others have said, though, and you're wondering about, maybe something that was said has just triggered some anger in you......I actually didn't dump the doctor without putting a lot of thought into it and processing it with other people, like you're wisely doing.

[Yoda]

I fired my last pdoc. I told her I no longer trusted her and she started crying. I was very uncomfortable. My son has no insurance and now due to reorganization she is the only pdoc who can see him for free. I am not looking forward to that. I wish I could go back to work so he could see somebody else.

[phoenix7]

aww sorry yoda that sucks

my pdoc's attitude seemed to change form him being helping towards me to a bit stand offish when my diagnosis was changed by my old T from just PTSD- lol just PTSD thats a laugh - to PTSD and Borderline personality Disorder albeit "high - functioning"

sighs .... i havnt found a new one yet cos i cant afford it ..

[Travelinglady]

We do need to be sensitive to the biases and preferences of our psychiatrists--and therapists. I was once labeled as a "high-functioning borderline" and discovered that that diagnosis tends to "upset" some docs. In fact, I was looking for a new psychiatrist after I fell out with the "old man," so I called around to different offices. One receptionist said I would be accepted depending on my diagnosis. That intrigued me. "What diagnosis doesn't she take?" I asked. "Borderlines," the receptionist answered.

(Note: After years of therapy and two rounds of DBT, I know longer have that diagnosis--at least the last three therapists and my psychiatrist say that they don't see it in me....)

[splitimage]

I really don't like my psychiatrist, he has all the therapeutic warmth of a dead fish, but I'm sticking with him because he's competent and thorough, and manages my meds really well. Plus up here it's really hard to get a pdoc - there's a shortage, and I don't want to start over at ground zero. Plus he works out of my city's major psych hospital, and it's an advantage to me to be a patient in the system there, because if I need a referal for extra treatment, like when I needed to go IP this summer, it happens a lot faster for me. Fortunately he's agreed that I don't need to see him weekly anymore, and that we can go to every other week.

--splitimage